how can i protect my son from stupid druggies without wrapping him up in cotton wool ?

Question

ok my son is 14 hes not a bad kid , mixed wiv wrong crowd ,they got him to mind stuff for them so he put them on a bk field and they went missing he got his phone took off him an other stuff to pay for them when i found out i paid the debt off now hes gettin called grass an am scared for him to go out the door now ... wot can we do ?

he is a good kid he comes home when his mates start drinking an actin silly

Answer 1

depends on the age of the child. education is the key. he needs to know right from wrong and the full affects drug taking will have on him if he indulges. all you can do is arm him with knowledge and let him make his own decisions. sounds harsh i know but there isnt more you can do other than the cotton wool thing, and never allowing him out your sight. dont go the dictatorship way when discussing drugs and their affects, just point out the druggies you see on the street and say how disappointed thier mothers must be and how ill they look etc. you get the drift.

Answer 2

You are doing your job by recognizing your son is making bad choices to attaching himself with a situation that will ruin his life. Parents are called parents for a reason - parenting is a verb whether you are a mother or a father. He is your child and you need to find a way to get that other situation out of his life and also realize the beliefs of "druggies" have no place in your home as well because you said so. He needs to know it's wrong and instead we as a family will be doing ____ and he as a 14 year old should be offered up alternatives to that low class behavior.

Answer 3

Talk, talk, talk. About everything! If you talk about everything, it is so much easier to talk about sensitive things like sex, drugs etc.
If you could hear our conversations around the dinner table, you would probably flip (no foul language of course). We talk about anything and everything. My kids are now 22, 19, 18 and 11 and so far they are great kids with common sense & none have been involved in anything bad.
It also helps that we live in a small community where everyone knows everyone and I know most of the police officers because I work with them. If my kids would do something, I'm sure I would hear about it.

Answer 4

You Do need to protect him. I wouldnt worry about anything except making a huge change before it gets worse. What can you do to isolate him? Change schools, move, or something? If he has nothing to do except hang with them, it will escalate. Keep him busy going to sports or to a gym, or volunteering or something way away from these guys. Is it possible you can move? Can his father escort him to and from school? Since he is not respected by them, he is in danger and you are smart to worry. This will be the turning point for his life. I am worried also. Best wishes and may guardian angels watch over him

Answer 5

We explained to our children the hard, cold facts of it all. From using, to infected needles and what those diseases do, stealing from your friends and family to pay for your habit, and going to prison and what can happen in prison. Everything in prison.
Too many people today baby their children, afraid that they will say something to frighten their little minds and all the while not considering this:
There are no fairy tale endings in this life.
People can be outright mean and cold-blooded when push comes to shove.
People at times will deliberately hurt and or kill one another for fun.
Someone, is always looking to gain an advantage from you and will lie, maim, and injure to get that advantage.
We do explain the finer points of life but there aren't many of them. Don't beat around the bush when it comes to drugs, lay it on the line. By giving in every detail, you/re just making them more aware. By not telling them anything, you're just hiding information from them and they may just go find out the hard way.
I never did drugs, but I know many people that have. My cousin is brain dead from his need for drugs. My other cousin is getting passed around in prison because of his need for drugs. Those are facts that need to be explained to alert others to what can happen if you're not wise about it.

Answer 6

Sometimes you have to get tough. Make it clear to his "friends" that if they keep up their bs, you will get authorities involved. Most dealers will head for the hills when they hear this. But, you have to be willing to follow-up on it. Because if all you do is talk, you will get blown-off.
Talking to your child sometimes just doesn't work. Ground him if you have to. Read him the riot act. Sometimes "tough love" is what is needed.
I've been on both sides of this. I was invovled in the drug scene for almost 30 yrs. before I cleaned up. When my stepdau. started entering her teens, I made it clear that she couldn't pull the wool over my eyes. I suspected she's tried it; most teens do. But she never got involved in that whole scene.

Answer 7

my daughter is 17 and a few months ago i found out she was smoking drugs.I wasn't happy i shouted and kept her in away from people that she was taking drugs with,
in the end i had to let her back out in the big bad world on the understanding that she never touches drugs again.
it is hard but i have to trust her.
i keep a close eye on her mood,attitude.dress appearance
i know she made abig mistake but being a parent we do want to wrap them in Cotton wool and not let them out of our sight, but teenagers will make mistakes but hopefully learn from them

Answer 8

First of all, get him to teach you how to spell. Sentence construction might be advisable as well. What my wife and I did with our son was to explain all the negative issues regarding drugs up to and including possible death. We informed him it was now his choice but, if he chose to take drugs, he accepts responsibility for what happens to him. He cannot blame anyone else. This appears to have sunk in. He has never taken drugs, and he is now proud to admit that.

Answer 9

The best you can do is educate your child. If your son is aware of the consequences of a good choice as well as a bad choice then he will be able to make that choice.

Answer 10

i there i am in the same positon but i have made all my kids aware of the dangers of drugs, and shown them what they can do to you, i know it may seem harsh but try and take him somewhere that shown him the effects for himself, show videos and leaflets, i do'nt think there is much more that can be done apart from parent power, and try guiding him in the right direction, but sometimes even when you do your best, things can go wrong, i started showing my kids videos of drug abuse at 12/13 years old, gl xx