Also state your religion. I'm interested to see if there's a correlation. If you are religious, do you think that it is wrong or a "sin" to date someone you have intention of getting married to?
2007-07-26 01:49:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I'll let this topic drop one of these days, just not yet. :)
2007-07-26 01:55:18 · update #1
Someone said the whole interview thing to me and I was a bit shocked at how many people seem to have the idea. I guess I've always seen dating relationships as standing alone, but a lot of people think it's useless unless there's some goal in sight.
2007-07-26 02:08:53 · update #2
Christian - and I think sometimes it is and sometimes it isn't. It depends on where a dating person is in their own lives. Sometimes dating can just be a fun way to make new friends of the opposite sex, sometimes you may be wanting to find someone to develop a more long-term relationship with. I think different people date for various reasons. If both dating parties are honest with themselves and who they are dating about what they're dating for (fun, companionship, etc. or relationship and marriage) it will prevent a lot of hurt feelings later.
I do not think that dating just to date and be friends, have fun, etc. is a sin.
2007-07-26 03:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by Marvelissa VT 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It can be a very long interview then.. :P
It depends on the person. Some people see marriage as the ultimate goal, and for them it is kind of an interview process. Seeing who (or whom, the one part of the English language I never did get) is the best for the position.
Then there are other who just see it as simply dating, then possibly leading to marriage later. Two friends of my parents have been "dating" for 28 years now, never really had any intention of getting married.
Me personally, I see it as a fun "interview" process I guess. Dating helps me get to know a person better, and eventually if I like the person enough, leads to marriage...or whatever atheists have. Interview makes it sound so professional, so goal oriented, that I struggle calling it that. Dating should be a fun getting-to-know-you experience, not an application for an open position.
2007-07-26 01:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by Southpaw 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, I have never been able to understand this term "dating". What does it mean?
I'm a Muslim and it is permitted in Islam to meet the person one is intending to marry. However, there are certain rules and regulations of proper behaviour to be followed. Just going about flirting with one person after another with the excuse of checking them out for marriage is not allowed.
However, in one's daily life, one meets a lot of people on purely business level or other matters. Therei s no harm if you come upno someone who you tihnk can be a good spouse for you. The moment one has such an idea about someone is the time to send out a proper marriage proposal rather than "checking out the person" and then moving on for further search.
2007-07-26 03:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by Catalyst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True. Dating or the courtship process is to determine if two people are sufficiently compatible to marry. I am one of Jehovah's Christian Witnesses. We do not date for recreation. I would not exactly call it a sin to date someone I have no intention of marrying. But I have come to realize that dating is very serious. Emotions and feelings become involved. Sexual attraction enters the picture. To date with no intention or hope of getting married is to tread dangerously close to hurting feelings, breaking hearts and trivializing another's feelings.
If I am not in a position to marry, why would I want to expose myself (and the other person) to such things? That would not be a Christian thing to do. Never underestimate the power of sexual attraction between humans.
Hannah J Paul
2007-07-26 01:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by Hannah J Paul 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all I'm atheist. :)
I think that most women use dating as the interview process before marriage but I don't think the guys are looking at it the same way.
I don't think its morally wrong to date someone you have no intention of marrying as long as both of you understand what's going on.
That person you may think isn't marriage material may grow up, or your feelings may change as you get to know them better. It takes some pressure off if you try to just live in the moment during the early stages of a relationship.
2007-07-26 01:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by ♨UFO♨ 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Christian-date.
2007-07-26 01:54:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
True. But I do not think that all of the times it is a sin to date before your ready to get married, it will just make things easier for if you stay out of all that until you know your ready to get married. I'm Catholic.
2007-07-26 01:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by tinacatz2003 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Atheist, my country doesn't really have a dating culture, and I don't think that dating or even a relationship should necessarily lead to marriage.
2007-07-26 01:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i m hindu nd don't think anything wrong in dating before marriage, its the way to interract with other person with whom u r going to spend ur whole life
2007-07-26 09:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Atheist and I don't think that it is. I know plenty of people who have dated just because they wanted to be with someone or just enjoyed it.
2007-07-26 01:56:26 · answer #10 · answered by John C 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋