bereavement?

Question

any one who has ever lost a parent or some one close to them want t mail me, i'm 19 and lost my mum 4 years ago, but need help gettin over it and non of my friends will talk about it with me. if u will mail me please

Answer 1

I'm not going to email you, because I don't think it would really help. But what I DO recommend is discussing this with your doctor. Four years is a long time to grieve, and your mother would want you to be happy. So I suggest getting some professional help. Your doctor should be able to refer you to someone who can help you deal with your grief. Good luck!

Answer 2

hi i am 23 and lost my dad 4years ago when i just turned 19. I think its the hardest thing you have to go through in life especially when your our age and really still need your parents for alot of guidance. I dont think its something you ever get over more learn to deal with it. its hard to talk to your friends about it unless they have lost a parent themselves they cant even begin to say they know how you must be feeling cos they dont and hopefully wont for many years to come. I believe in life after death and think that your mum is still very much around you and the more you get on in your life the more you'll do your mum proud. All the best

Answer 3

Firstly I havent lost a parent so I can only imagine what it is like but from I think I can give you some nice words to try and at least help- even if a little!

I have always said to my family that if I were to die that I want them to be happy and celebrate my life- not become down and depressed about my life because then all that misery takes away all the good memories!! My family all say the same thing- not sure it will work in realitly but at least we know each others wishes!

I think you need to try and celebrate and remember the great things about your mum (often this may cause upset) but just think if she were looking down on you now I am sure she wouldnt want you to be sad! She bought you up to have the best in life so try and buld up the courage to move on and up in life and make her proud of you!!

It really helps to talk about things, people DONT realize how important talking is!! If friends dont talk to you try not to take it heart- they probably dont know how to approach the subject (even tho inside you are desperate to talk) maybe go and speak with your doctor/councilor!! You will really benefit from it!!

You are very young and I really feel for you but be strong and make the most of life- make your mum proud and live life how she would love you to!!!

You did specifiy for people who have lost parents so I hope you dont mind me answering!!


Take Care
xxx

Answer 4

I lost my mum last year on 26th september 2006 to cancer i was only 16 at the time and i need someone to talk to as well if u need someone please mail me as well and we can be friends and help each other . Just remember one thing all though they are gone i belief that their life goes on they are always with you smiling and looking down on you. The pain will never go away you will still remember the times you had but what helped me was making a memory album and a memory box. With the memory album put photos of your mum in and remember the good times you shared with the memory box put things in their that will help you remember her in mine i have such thing as birthday cards she wrote and her glasses it really helps

Answer 5

One of the hardest things you can do in life is getting over someone who has passed. Have you thought about going to get some counseling?
Sometimes when your not able to talk with your friends maybe it is a good thing cause they don't know what to say to you. But, you need to talk out your feelings. I don't think you will ever get over losing your Mom but, a counselor will help you deal better......good luck

Answer 6

I am sorry to hear that you lost your mother at such a young age. I have lost people in the past extremely close to me. The only thing I can tell you is you never get over it you only learn to live with it. Don't fight your feelings you need to learn to feel. Going to counselling helps a ton. I highly recommend it.

Answer 7

I've lost both my parents and i went to bereavement counseling they were brilliant and understood exactly what i was going through get in touch with them and or you could try with your friends again, death is very scary to others and they probably have no idea what to do so they do nothing. They may want to help but don't know how. You could involve them by asking them to go with you. Sorry for your loss.

Answer 8

I am way older than you but I lost both of my parents last year after taking care of them both for two years. But of course due to the fact I an older they were also of old age, But the biggest lose in my life was my boyfriend who was killed in a drunken driving accident. It was so sudden and his brother was the driver! I have greived that death alot longer than I should ! All I can tell you is it takes time ,,,, I don't know if I can help you in any way, but you can write me , Prayer are with you . [e-mail]

Answer 9

i feel very sorry for you
' i lost my mum 13yrs ago and my dad 7yrs ago.it is the most horrendous thing to happen'ifelt so lost and hurt,a lot better now but still feel lost,i had a therapist to help me out and it did help' it doesn't take away the longing to see your parents but it makes you understand more,
i used to cry for hours and i was told that is good for you as its healing.
so i hope i have given you some consolation if you need to email me i don't mind
take and all the best.xx

Answer 10

I think you would be better off talking with a professional who knows how to deal with the grieving process. When my father died I spoke to a counselor at the County Department of Health. They have mental health counselors who can help people in your situation and they don't charge anything. It was very helpful for me. You can find their phone number in the government pages in your phone book.