2007-07-26 01:38:28 · 11 answers · asked by SHAWN 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well you gotta figure that one out my setting up your priorities and figuring out which is most important to you the girl or kids
2007-07-26 01:41:00 · answer #1 · answered by shoe soul 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how old you are, but age does have a factor in this. It sounds like to me your priorities are that you simply don't want kids "right now". Not saying you want kids later either, but it is quite possible. Now, just because you fall in love with a girl who wants to have children doesn't mean she'll fall in love with you. She may realize you don't want kids and that may really turn her off.
Not saying you should want kids, but maybe her wanting kids shouldn't be such an important characteristic in someone you care about.
2007-07-26 08:46:53 · answer #2 · answered by pcbatl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you've answered your own question. how can you possibly love someone that wants kids when you don't.
love does that sometimes..it allows you to open up yourself to things that you otherwise wouldn't have done youself.
if loving this person was more important than your desire to want kids than there's your answer. love can conquer all..personally, to have the child of someone that i love is a great thing. imagine how much you will love this child, not only because the child comes from you, but you also share it with the woman you love. dont be afraid of what your mind scares you..its just a test..hope you pass mate!
2007-07-26 08:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by peachys8n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try horses. Listen: that is really a problem.
YOU have to go to eharrmony or some thing like that and tell you do not want children. Stay the course, because later, you will hate your wife and kids. respect your wants.
2007-07-26 08:42:05 · answer #4 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very confused.
I can see where you're coming from, though. Most people who don't want kids, are somewhat selfish...
And, you're obviously at a stage where you're not wanting any...Yet, it's appealing to think of marrying someone who would be willing, if you changed your mind.
Just try to understand that it's better to be with someone who's thinking on the same page. Otherwise, there will be conflicts.
2007-07-26 08:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by darkening_hope 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you need to relent and have 2 kids. This is how marriages fail. You can not be honest with her in the beginning and when you finally are honest, either she will:
1) Get pregnant "accidently" anyway.
2) Divorce you because she is not willing to give up children in her life.
2007-07-26 08:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then you are probably not meant for eachother! Find someone who shares your desires. She is not gonna change her mind about wanting children. What happens if she gets pregnant ? Are you gonna leave her or be really unhappy? Think about it. Children are not a joke ...they are life
2007-07-26 08:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when we find a partner, we should consider what he/she needs/wants and if we can give them those. having/not having children is something both parties have to agree on. if you can't agree on this then i don't think it would be wise to commit to a serious relationship (esp. marriage)
2007-07-26 22:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by philosophical beaver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't be fair to the girl you fell in love with. Find one who shares your desires...
2007-07-26 08:41:12 · answer #9 · answered by mamapoulette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really loved her, you would want what she wants. Move on.
2007-07-26 08:43:36 · answer #10 · answered by Michael B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋