weve been best friends for 6 years, im 15 and hes 17 and our dads are best friends. i used to like him but he had a girlfriend. hes always talking about how much he loves me and how amazing i am and how he wants to marry me some day. he is verry experienced and i am a virgin. so he was sleeping over last week and he said that he wanted to have sexand i said that i wanted to wait till i was in love and he said "i dont know about you but im in love" i do love him but i dont know if im "in love" with him anymore. he asked me to be his girlfriend and i said yes, but now he stopped mentioning sex. does he not like me or something. he sleeps over like he used to and he just cuddles me he doesnt try anything and earlier we were in my room on my bed and i was joking around and pushed him down and stuff so we started making out so i thought ok were going to do it. then he gets up and runs out of the room. why did he do that? is it becasue hes not attracted to me?
2007-07-26 01:29:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we talk and hang out like normal and conversation is normal but he like wont make out with me and he just hugs me and kisses me now. he doesnt like to be alone with me in my room or his room.
please dont say dont do it or do it can you explain why he is acting weird
2007-07-26 01:30:26 · update #1
he really is experienced, ive walked in on him last year and girls told me about it.
2007-07-26 01:56:24 · update #2
He accepts and respects your decision. The fact that he isn't pushing for sex is actually a good sign that he does love you.
The fact that he has put his own wants and needs on the back burner to respect your wants is an amazing thing. Guys are ruled by their hormones, and to have this guy care about you so much that he is pushing his own sexual drive in neutra is a great thing. It is a gift to you...accept it.
Guys will lie, cheat, steal...whatever it takes to get girls to sleep with them...and your guy decides to not push the issue. That is such a great sign. He is a keeper...stand your ground like you have been...who knows, you may get married and be one of the lucky few that are virgins on their wedding night...and he will love that he will be the only man you've ever been with.
2007-07-26 01:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by hunnygril 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he listened to what you said and is taking it into consideration. He probably doesn't want to be alone with you because he wants more than just kissing and hugging but he's trying to respect the fact that you want to wait until you're in love. If you have to question if you're in love, you're not. There's no rush and just wait until you're truely ready to make that step. There are a lot of emotions involved especially your first time. So when you do decide just make sure it's with the right person. If he waits for you, then I would definitely hold onto to him. Be safe.
2007-07-26 01:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by Lena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hah, it's likely he isn't as experienced as he sounds. It is also possible that he forgot his condoms and didn't want to risk ruining both your futures.
On a lighter note however, perhaps he is respecting your wishes, he has made a move already, and you don't him no. Now it is your turn to make the move, just tug at his pants a little the next time you two are making out (I don't mean tug "it", I mean try unzipping or something) - or you could just tell him you're ready.
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2007-07-26 01:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by Hermes711 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy is really nice and respects you he might be trying to prevent things from going too far right now. He knows you're not ready so he doesn't want things to get too hot and heavy where you do something you might regret. I'm not going to get all preachy here and tell you not to have sex but if you do decide you want to you're probably going to have to make the first move. The best way would be to bring it up to him if you feel you're ready. If you're really sure and are upfront with him there's no way he's going to say no.
2007-07-26 01:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe all that talk about sex in the beginning was to test you to see if you'd give in. Your negative response was probably what he was looking for from you. If you'd said yes, he'd know that you were just like the other girls he's supposedly slept with and he might have had sex with you, but that would have been it - no girlfriend status.
The minute you have sex with him, he'll be thinking of moving on.
2007-07-26 01:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is afraid that he might try something before you are ready or maybe he just is hurting from you saying that you didn't think you are in love yet. I think he doesn't want to lose control and do something he shouldn't. If he didn't like you anymore you wouldn't even have the talking and hugging or any of it.
2007-07-26 01:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by Łøνε-α-Łøт 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he respects you and your opinion and not just looking for a booty call; however, at 15 & 17 if you give it up he will lose respect for you. Hold on to your values and you stand a better chance of holding on to him than if you have sex with him.
My friend that knew the guy for several years "gave it up" and he dropped her the next day because he lost respect for her for not adhering to her values and figured it she would "do it with him" she would "do it with anyone".
2007-07-26 01:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Likely he is not as experienced as he claims dear. That or he respects you so much he is not trying to undermine your wishes waiting for you to "Be in love" in anyevent do not rush it will some in time savor the moment as it happens only once.
Remember: be safe use a condom.
2007-07-26 01:34:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's afraid that you'll become very clingy after you have sex or he wants to wait until your ready. If you aren't ready be happy but if you are why don't you ask him. I'm sure it'll be more accurate coming from him.
2007-07-26 01:35:37 · answer #9 · answered by Kween Bobby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy answer............ he may respect you, or CONSIDER YOU TO BE HIS LITTLE SISTER, after knowing you that long, as a friend, and now all of the sudden, feelings get involved, he may feel as tho it's almost incest, to be sexual with you.... as your families have always been so close, he may feel or think of you as his little sister.?.. or maybe he's afraid to take your virginity, but Don't rush it.. let it happen naturally and if you don't THINK your in real love, with him, then don't lose it to just anyone...........
2007-07-26 01:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by ~ANGEL~EYES~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋