My little sister, now 18, used to be oh so sweet, always laughing at jokes, sitting on my dad's lap and helping my mother out. In the past year or so she has transformed into this shallow, attitude ridden young woman, pouting, rolling her eyes and raising her voice to a screech that could shatter plexiglass the moment something does not go her way. My dad gives in to her and most of the time my mom does as well. I, 8 years her elder, have taken it upon myself to discipline her. I've attempted to patiently talk to her, which only leads her to the "don't lecture me" response. I've blown up on her when I witness her walking all over my parents, which either makes her cringe or resent me. She can be so sweet sometimes but its very easy to see that she is only acting that way because she wants something. What can i do to help my parents out? I don't live at home but am here frequently for short periods of time.
2007-07-26 01:17:16 · 12 answers · asked by bruce_eel 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you can let your parents "discipline" your sister....it's not your job, nor is it your responsibility.
your sister is growing up, and probably needs to get out on her own and fend for herself.
meanwhile, if your parents put up with her rediculous behavior and give in to her every whim, it's their problem, not yours.
stop making it your issue -- and take care of your own stuff.
hugs
2007-07-26 02:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister has taken the role of a spoiled child who throws a tantrum when things don't go her way. Your parents response is to give her what she wants. The longer it takes for them to give in the more drama she causes until she wins. Which it sounds like it's been working for her so far. Your parents need to say no and she needs to grow up. Since she is 18 she can pack her bags and get out on her own. She needs a taste of reality as her behavior will not work out side the family home. Sorry to say your parents need to do this with your support. As her brother you really are wasting your breath talking to her as your parents undo any discipline you have tried.
2007-07-26 02:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh for gods sake who made you the boss? You need to back off, she has parents. Do some reading on girls at 18, she sounds perfectly normal. You apparently were never 18, and we know you weren't a woman. What do you know about it?
Your behavior sounds controlling and abusive, knock off the "blowing up" stuff, this is not any of your business.
2007-07-26 02:41:47 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are the ones who have to put a stop to it. They raised her to be self-centered and spoiled and apparently as long as she gets things her way she's fine. Pitching a fit just shows how immature and self-centered she is. She's also maturing and the reality of the world may be just beginning to scare her some. In any event, your parents have to set the limits as to what they're willing to put up with, and they have to say stop when they've had enough.
2007-07-26 01:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by LadyG 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she is an immature person because she does not become a lady and I think she does not to do being of a responsibilities in her life and I think there is some wrong about her or she does it if any some of problems.I think she is self center of her a lot of attentions because they give for what she wants and that's why they give anything for her and I think she is no friends for her and she always be dependent to your parents and she become a jealous because no one to talked to her.I'll give you an advice always be a patient and calming to her and why did you talked to you parents about her and why did you helped her for anything and give her a love,and caring.
2007-07-26 01:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by Clarisse 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nothing you can do really. your folks will get sick of it sooner or later and take care of it. walk out of the room when she starts her crap. maybe she'll get the message. your first answerer actually has a good idea. when she acts like a little snot and throws her tantrum, hand her a little wrapped box with a pacifier in it. do it in front of your folks.she'll get ticked off but she'll get the point. all the talking and yelling in the world won't get her to change her tune. you'll just add fuel to the fire. that little action of the pacifier will get your point across better w/o you getting aggravated. good luck
2007-07-26 02:30:07 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could help you parents by talking to them. They allow her to talk this way, just to have her way? Make them understand that you are not solely to discipline to your sister. They should. You are just there to assist them. In dealing with her being a brat, have a family meeting . Be clear and straight to her. Be firm with any disciplinary actions and mean it.
2007-07-26 01:35:39 · answer #7 · answered by kat0217 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yep, just don't see how this is your problem. Unless she acts that way directly to you - stay out of it. Your parents obviously must not mind her behavior. If they do, they should ignore it, and if it doesn't change, kick her out of the house.
2007-07-26 03:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by krissylyn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she the baby? I, like you, can't take the disrespecting.
I'd just treat her as she treats everyone. She's your sister, your parents kid. Let them do the parenting. Just leave when she gets to be too much. Hopefully she will grow up one day.
2007-07-26 01:27:55 · answer #9 · answered by non o u biznis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you be responsive to...Ive have been given the comparable project!!! :( i be responsive to the style you experience.a million.attempt exhibiting her who's the boss around right here. 2.attempt to speak to her precise,in line with threat get her a candy and attempt talking to her. 3.Be the sturdy one punch her returned and deny it!!! choose for and sturdy success!! Im gonna attempt and handle my little devil SIS
2016-09-30 21:15:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋