Last night I had an argument with my ex boyfriend he told me that when he first met me the only reason he dated me was to get into my pants. I yelled a lot and I felt so worthless after that and he also said what can I do to make you go the hell away. He's also mentioned that he was never attracted to me but that I should move on and find someone else I said I didn't want anyone else and he said you should because you deserve someone nice and I'm an asshole. What is it that I'm doing that repels guys so much I have had three different relationships in three months and none of them have worked out.
2007-07-26 01:13:02 · 20 answers · asked by hsflaggirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't jump into a relationship so quickly.
Be happy whether or not you are in a relationship.
Learn to love being independent.
Make sure a guy shows you he care by actions.
Take time to get to know him before you get physical.
Respect yourself
Have a positive attitude.
Know you deserve better than this last guy. Move on and be happy you aren't stuck with a loser.
Stay in school and don't do drugs!
Be a kind person.
Don't seek the attention of people who you wouldn't be proud to introduce to your parents.
Do random acts of kindness and don't tell anyone.
Do something nice for yourself at least once a week.
Try your best always ---
Make your parents proud
2007-07-26 01:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You let guys get in your pants way too soon. Before you can even get to know a person well, you let them inside your panties. You need to get to know a person for a few months first, actually become an item, and get to know if you really like this person, and if they really like you. Jumping in the bed head first does not leave room for love, only lust, and your mind is clouded, and you are then di*k whipped.
You need to value your body and yourself and realize that your body is a temple. You need more confidence in yourself, because if you do not put yourself up on a pedastal, no one else will.
Last but not least girlfriend, there are a lot of stds out here, and some you can not get rid of. And why depend on a condom to protect your behind? A condom could break or anything, and the next thing you know, you are pregnant with aids.
Wake up sister. You are beautiful and you need to start taking care of yourself first, before you take care of some guy.
2007-07-26 08:24:32 · answer #2 · answered by Mama08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guy's a loser. If he says he just dated you to get in your pants and now no longer wants you, he's probably being honest. It's the hump-and-dump mentality a lot of young guys have. Don't obsess over him... Move on!
Believe me, this is life. You're not doing anything wrong... Just refine that what you're looking for in a guy. Most girls like the whole "bad boy" thing, and you might, as well. Eventually, it wears off... But until then, your heart is broken time after time by inconsiderate jerks.
Have patience and someone will come along... That's what they tell me...
2007-07-26 08:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wouldn't sleep with someone within a months time. I have no idea if you slept with all three, but i'm guessing you did the last guy.
It sounds to me like he feels guilty, and that he was being honest unfortunately.
I recommend going much slower, being easy is not the way to go, unless you like the idea of getting hiv, or getting pregnant.
You seem like a very sweet, nice and intelligent girl, and it seems you deserve someone so much better than the guys you've been with.
2007-07-26 08:26:28 · answer #4 · answered by Sake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A - You are trying to get involved with individuals who are not on your level. And you can't make something work with someone who is not on your level.
B - You are moving too fast, falling in love, giving it up & not taking time to get to know these guys.
C - You appear too clingy/desperate & it turns guys off.
D - All or a few of those above.
You seem prone to pick guys who are abusive. You should have hung up in your ex's face before he said all of that. You are only tearing yourself down & you need to be by yourself for some time and work on you.
2007-07-26 08:49:37 · answer #5 · answered by Unique Soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably aren't doing anything wrong, exactly. I think you are probably just attracted to the wrong guys. I would take a short break from dating and so something for yourself that makes you truly happy. Then, you might be ready to find the type of guy you can have a real relationship with.
2007-07-26 08:17:45 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its nothing to do with you.. its the men you are choosing! seriosly.!!!! you have the bad man thing going on.. my mate is always like how come u always get good boyfriends and I end up dumped or cheated or or worse. Its cause you cant go with the first bloke that walks up to you in a nightclub. Also dont sleep with them for a week or so.. that usually wades out the losers who wont stick around to wait. Go for completely the opposite you normally do and youll be surprised what happens... dont act desperate xx xx
2007-07-26 08:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your jumping into relationships TOO quickly. You need to understand and learn the fiber of the man your dating. You act as if your afraid to be without a man and therefore you are prone to make bad and hasty mistakes. Take time out to learn about YOURSELF and what you want out of a relationship BEFORE you get involved. Learn to respect yourself more and stop giving up pieces of yourself soo quickly. your worth more than that. Oh and STOP talking to ex boyfriends. That assshole was right about being one. Learn the lesson hun. G' luck!
2007-07-26 08:19:28 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, guys, in an argument, LOVE to try and make the girl cry. It's our goal, of course once you actually do cry, we normally feel like **** and blame ourself and what not. So don't read too much into his comments.
As for what you're doing wrong, you just haven't found the right guy yet - a guy who can embrace you for who are, not who you try to be.
There is of course, little advice I can offer you since you haven't given much insight as to what your personality is like. Maybe you're too clingy, too needy, etc... there are plenty of things that turn guys off.
Anyways, best of luck!
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2007-07-26 08:38:55 · answer #9 · answered by Hermes711 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go an look for a guy. Just wait... patience have rewards. It will fall like apples in your lap. Maybe you are just trying to hard and to try to keep a guy by your side and sleep with him just so that he does not leave you never worked. So wake up and smell the coffee good guys are hard to find
2007-07-26 08:20:47 · answer #10 · answered by nadia d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋