I've known this guy for a year now and I've always been in love with him well recently I found out he's engaged so I thought are talking would cease to exist. He's in iraq right now and still contacts me when he can he even says that he misses me and that wouldn't mind seeing me when he got back. One night he said that it might not even work out with his engagement and that he might need a roomate and if I was willing he wouldn't mind me living with him. I don't know what to do should I just stop talking to him all together or wait and see what happens?
2007-07-26 00:52:16 · 19 answers · asked by hsflaggirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on... This guy seems like trouble. If he really loved and trusted his fiance, he wouldn't need you "just in case" things don't work out. Who's to say he won't do the same to you in a few years?
Move on and find someone that's single... You'll save yourself time and headaches.
2007-07-26 00:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't stop talking to him but keep a sense of reality firmly in the front of your mind. Limit the amount of time you spend talking to each other. Its easy in some ways for him to say what he is saying but he may change when he comes back and actually is with his girlfriend. If they are having problems then that is up to him and his girlfriend to sort out you can be a friend but try and keep your emotions detached from the situation, baring in mind that he is probably talking to her and saying completely different things. I wouldn't consider moving in with him what ever happens because if things don't work out you've lost a friend and potentially somewhere to live so change the subject when it comes up and deal with things when they are happening. Also sorry to say but if you've been in love with him for a year and he is engaged to someone else then maybe its time you found someone else to love and not waste your emotions on a man who may be a good friend but might not want a relationship with you. In reality you have already been 'waiting to see what happens, and putting your life on hold.'
2007-07-26 08:25:04 · answer #2 · answered by pri1orn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is engaged for Pete's sake.. come on, are you that desperate you need someone else's man????
I don't care what he tells you, he is trying to keep you on a string if things don't work out.
Is that the kind of man you want????
If a man leaves someone for someone else, you can be darned sure he will repeat the behaviour.
You on the other hand should be going in the opposite direction and find someone who is available..
I don't care what he tells you.. don't be so gullible... break this off..
If a relationship between two people is meant to be it will be, don't try and play the cards in your favour, this will blow up in your face...
Please find someone at home, available and someone who has morals and not trying to cheat behind their fiancees back.....
2007-07-26 07:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh my God. What kind of person are you? He is in love and engaged to another woman and you are chasing after him? Leave the man alone. You are this close to being a stalker and he is a male whore. He wants his cake and his TART!
Think about what you wrote and do the right thing. Leave the man alone. Don't talk to him anymore. Let him get on with his miserable life and make his fiance miserable.
2007-07-26 07:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by holeeycow 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your a distraction to him right now and perhaps his engagement would be working out if he wasnt talking to you. I'm not saying its your fault ....BUT you are talking to an engaged man and your not talking about cookie recipes so you should step out of the situation. See what happens but do not wait and see what happens...if you know what I mean.
2007-07-26 07:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Listen. I think you need to go slow. If the guy you love is ready to dump his future wife for someone who is better than her, then I dont think you should trust him.
The guy I would say is interested in plain sex. Do it if you like.
If the guy really wanted to get away from his fiancee after a very short period of time and come after you, and wants to share a house with you, then I would say he is interested in sex. But if he is comming out after a couple of years of relationship with his fiancee then he really dosnt like her anymore and is intetrested in you.
All the best,
With lots of love,
LIANA LEX
2007-07-26 08:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by greta 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
keep talkin to him , help by being a friend and your going to have to hold back those feelings of intimacy because he's engaged and surely you don't want him to mess up his engagement further (out of friendship) for your own selfish satisfaction AND be the "cause" Let him figure it out, take your time and if his situation don't work out ..move in for the kill.
2007-07-26 08:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jackofalltrades216 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont know what i will tell u will help at all......maybe things are not going well with him and his woman ....as a soldier in iraq theres a lot of stress and from my past relationship most women cant handle it and they bail out due to the fact you are not at home with them ....so find out his real deal and go from there .....as like myself i need someone to lean on and the comfort of a woman ....so just get the details.......
2007-07-26 08:05:54 · answer #8 · answered by ben d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is engaged and hints at a possibility that it won't work, he is lieing! He just wants to have sex with you and that is it. I hate to say it, but its just like guys who promise they will leave their wives, and 99% of the time they won't.
If he is willing to cheat on her, he would be willing to cheat on you, it is just that simple.
2007-07-26 08:13:14 · answer #9 · answered by Sake 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try putting yourself in the other womans place and then see how you'd feel. This should give you a pretty good idea of what to say to him.
2007-07-26 08:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋