feeling tough and not so sooky!!?

Question

I am scared of a lady at work and shy at the best of times. I was counting on a fellow worker to be at work tomorrow (mainly for support!) but she's sick so i am scared of going in as i know this other worker will whinge at me. shes a real B#tch and I know its not just me shes mean to but it really brings me down. I get upset with the way she talks to me and treats me (i.e sending me an email that was a full on lecture on a little mistake i made where anybody else would just point out that i should have done the particular thing like this and to remember for the future). I'm still learning but she seems out to make people miserable and bring them down. I get so nervous about new things at the best of times without having to worry about her on top (ive been on the job 3 months now but now starting to take on more responsibility). How do i toughen up? How do i put aside how she treats me and keep moving forward without feeling so weak and wanting to cry! thank gord its friday tomorrow:-p

Answer 1

Understand that its a matter of just a job and her shrwed comments, and vindictive demeanor is just something your going to have to learn to deal with if you going to keep working at this job. It comes down to frist developing a mentality and the intellegent to understand how unimportant other peoples opioions can be to you and your survival (which has nothing to do with your job) Second is then realizing what it is that makes her who she is, not easy mind you. Then comfronting her on it. But since were a classical person, in a classical situation, lets just assume you've got to that point and realize that you need to let her know whats buggin you. Don't keep things inside like this thats why it hurts you so much. Understand sometimes what hurts us the most isn't want other people do to us, its what we didn't do back. Defined your pride, your in the right, don't tolerate this, its just a job really, this isn't your survival. Which is your good-will, your happiness, your sanity. Your going to make a job and this ladies opioin more important then that? Geeze weres your firends? Boyfriend/Husban? Does no one help each other anymore?