I love my boyfriend very much and he is the first and only person that I had sex with, but I don't get any pleasure during intercourse. I enjoy oral sex but it's still hard to have an orgasm. I don't know if the problem is me because intercourse hurts rather than being pleasurable. What do you think?
2007-07-25 19:53:13 · 4 answers · asked by Ruchee 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Hi there! This is a very hard question to ask but I am glad you are seeking out help rather than having sex with anyone to see whats up. First off it isnt you and it isnt him. More than 82% of women cant orgasm through actual intercourse or oral intercourse. It isnt b/c anything is wrong it is just that there are other things that might work better for you. Orgasming isnt just physical but mental. If you are thinking of anything other than the moment then you arent putting all of you into it. Stress is another reason why you may not feel it. Me personally I have only ever been able to orgasm through hand to clitoris stimulation. ALOT of women are this way and there is nothing to be ashamed of. You may also want to look into foreplay. If you arent revved up beforehand then intercourse may hurt. I hope some of this at least helps you some. Just remember that practicing is part of the fun to get sex right. Your imagination is the only thing holding you back. You got it in you so revel in it!
2007-07-25 21:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by grumpybaby1226 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Intercourse isn't supposed to hurt every time. If you only have sex once a week or less, it might hurt a little, but if it hurts more often than that it might indicate a medical issue. This would be best addressed by your doctor or gynecologist. By the way, if you don't use it already, lubrication will make sex a lot less painful and more pleasurable.
2007-07-26 04:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by jellybeanchick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok for a female to orgasm during sex you need to stimulate your clitoris. Either slip your finger in during sex, or you need to have him higher than you during sex so that his penis is actually in contact with your clitoris. This will take some practise but you will get there. its well worth it.
2007-07-26 17:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the 1st answerer, I happen to fall into that 82% she is talking about. I need other things, oral, toys, etc. I do feel bad about it but I guess it isn't him or me to blame. I tend to want to please my partner more than myself. As long as he is happy is my saying, but, there are times that I need something too. So then we use other methods. One way or the other, it works out. :-)
2007-07-26 12:17:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋