Hi there! I know it may sound unbelievable that I want to have sex this young but I'm on eighth grade, and I'm envious on some of my friends that already have had sex. I really think it may be an incomparable experience that I'm anxious to have, but I'm really scared because I think I don't know enough. My period has no arrived ever yet, and my friends have told me that I should take advantage of that since I have no risk of getting pregnant but I'm not completely sure. Is it true that there is no risk in my situation? Should I do it?
2007-07-25 19:23:47 · 79 answers · asked by escoso4594 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
just because your period hasn't happened yet, don't mean you can't get pregnant. You're young and very fertile now.
Don't view your virginity as something to get rid of or something that isn't important like your friends have done. It is, that's why guys are always trying to take it from girls. There is intrinsic value in it.
Sex is a powerful thing. It has the power to give life(baby). It has the power to take it away(AIDS). If you're not willing to sacrifice yourself alone for a teenage boy to one of these then don't do it.
There are no shortage of teenage moms around the world who regret what they did. I bet every single one of them thought, "my guy loves me and won't bail if I get pregnant."
Please don't be that foolish making the same mistake.
2007-07-28 07:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by Michael M 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't started your period, I believe that sexual intercourse may be somewhat painful for you. It is also a myth that you can't become pregnant before you start. Besides that, there are also many diseases that you can catch, even if using protection.
As for sex being an "incomparable" experience, it really isn't all as glamorous as the media portrays it. It also won't necessarily make a guy fall in love with you nor will it make you mature any faster. This is especially true if your first time is with someone who isn't deserving of it. Believe me, your first time is going to be something that you'll remember for the rest of your life. While you're probably not going to wait until marriage, at least wait until you've been with the same person for at least a year. When it's shared by two mature adults, it is a great thing, but it's only one small aspect of a relationship.
I personally wouldn't encourage any 14 year old to engage in sex. If you choose to do so anyways, please make sure that it is with a guy your own age, get on birth control and use a condom properly each and every single time. I really do hope that you wait though. You're young and there are many other things to experience rather than sex.
2007-07-25 19:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but ARE YOU STUPID???
You are 14 years old so it is illegal for you to have sex in the majority of the countries across the world. Your friends a full of poop. They are lying to you. The majority of them havent had sex yet and they are scared just like you but like every other 14 year old across the globe they think sex is some cool thing! Its not! Its something you do when you are mature enough to be able to love someone. I waited until i was 18 to have sex and i still wish i hadnt chose the person I did! I would say i wasnt even mature enough at 18... Do you even know about contraception. And your mates, by the way, are talking rubbish about that too. You can get pregnant even if you havent had your first period! And if you havent had your first period then your body isnt ready for sex!
Do you know about condoms, femidoms, the different types of pill???
Do you know how to use all these products, do you know that your first time can hurt and you can bleed. Do you know that the boy that you are thinking of having sex with will turn around and call you cheap and easy after you've done it... no matter what his age! he also wont give a damn about you.
I know it may seem like i'm lecturing, but i'm only 21!
I'm not a mother yet although i have a step daughter.
I think you should talk to someone about what you have asked.
DONT LISTEN TO YOUR FRIENDS!!!! when it come to sex most of them are lying...
2007-07-30 23:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by Samee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!
Don't do it, first of all you are only 14. You have the rest of your life ahead of you! You don't want to do something stupid like your friends are. I'm sorry to tell you this, but your friends are stupid and idiotic. Both they and you are not old enough, nor mature enough to make a decision like this. Besides getting pregnant, you can catch a an STD or another type of disease like HIV. It is not an experience that will be great to "try". I would wait until you are older, and more mature. When you can handle any situation that may come from this, like being a parent, even if it's on your own; then and only then will you be ready. If you wait until you are at least 3-4 years older, and in a committed relationship of at least a year. You don't want to share this experience with just a dweeby little guy that you don't love, nor have a relationship with. This experience will be something that you want to share with your husband or boyfriend. Time will go by, and even if all your friends have had sex; at least you will know that you respect yourself more than they do, and will not have to go through the hurt, pain and negative feelings that they go along with having sex. Believe me, at this age, you don't really know where your life is going. And if you want to do something great with your life, you really don't need a kid or STD to get in the way. Your friends aren't doctors and have no clue about real life or facts. Yes you can get pregnant. Most guys/boys are after sex, and it's the only thing they want if they know they can get it from you. They will sweet talk you, telling you that you are the only one, and that they aren't this way, but once you give it up to them, they are out that door and on to the next girl.
I hope you really think about this decision, and choose to wait until you are older. Don't let your friends or guys influence you to have sex, because it will be the worse mistake you can make having it this young. Respect yourself and your body. Just think of how your most beloved family member would feel about you if you decided to make this decision right now. Good luck!
2007-07-25 20:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by Monica C 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can get pregnant before your period starts. You can also get STDs.
You need to know that just jumping in bed with a guy is not going to make good sex for you. I guarantee you that whoever you want to do this with has no skill whatsoever in making it good for you. If it's not good for you, what have you gained? Nothing. What have you lost? Something precious. Your virginity, possibly your whole future (pregnancy), your health (from now on you can never be sure you don't have an STD without testing).
First time sex is usually crummy. First time sex with a caring partner is better. First time sex with your commited love--the best.
The girls who are trying to talk you into this--most of them are still virgins and the ones who tell you how good it is are lying. Ask them if it's safe to use your mouth instead. Is that safe? (The answer is NO).
Keep your incomparable experience to share with a really crazy guy. You'll be happy you did.
TX Mom
Debbie
2007-07-30 15:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is quite the question for a fourteen year old to be facing. I can't say I gave sex much thought when I was fourteen, but apparently you are. Please understand sex is a very special expression of love between two loving and committed partners. Too many people move so fast into having sex when it's something which requires patience and understanding. Please be patient with yourself and choose to wait. There is no need to jump into it right away, especially if you are reacting to pressure from peers or possibly your boyfriend. Sex is not something which is to be demanded by or of another person. It is a gift which you give to the person you love and who exclusively loves you. Because you are wondering if you should withhold yourself and you are expressing a sense of fear, I would strongly suggest that you wait. Be patient -- let yourself mature some more, both physically and emotionally. Sex should not have to be a worry in your young life. Keep a cool head about it, and you'll do just fine.
2007-07-26 03:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by souldoctor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, you shouldn't let what your friends do influence your descion to have sex or not. It's true you probably won't get pregnant if you have sex but if you're not ready for it then don't do it. When you have sex there is all sorts of emotions flying around that are really confusing!! The first time you have sex should be with someone who is really special to you, I'm not saying wait until you are ready to get married cause that would be stupid. You wouldn't listen. But at least wait until you find someone worthy of it. Trust me, it's something that you look back on even when you're older, don't make it something you look back on and regret. it's a very special thing that you will never forget!!! Personally I think your friends are stupid for doing so early. I envied my friends for them having their first kiss before me and I rushed into it, I regret that now cause it was nothing special. No, you probably won't get pregnant, but I still don't recommend you doing it. You don't seem to be to educated on this subject and that could lead to bad things. Just cause you can't get pregnant doesn't mean you can't get anything else. STD's are also out there, and some of those don't go away for life, or worse they can kill you. Just be careful and don't do anything you will regret. If you do decide to go ahead and do it at least use a condom. Best thing for you is wait until you are 16 and can go get birth control without a parent if you don't want them to know and you should ALWAYS use a condom!!!
2007-07-25 19:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by Hope 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are not able to handle the consequences that comes with sex.It is not just a physical thing.There are stds and risk of possible pregnancy ( no contraceptive is 100% safe) you can still get pregnant without any period because there is still some amount5 of pregnancy hormone inside your body.Your friend don't mean you welll.Every 14 year old feel the urge to have sex that doesn't make it right.When you find the guy of your dreams you will want to offer your virginity to him then.I am 18 and I'm telling you it is worth waiting for,don't get involve in sex for sex sake it is not running away.Not bashing you but wait.
2007-07-26 03:20:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are worried that you are not educated enough, you probably aren't. The fact that you want to have sex just because your friends are definitely show that you are not mature enough yet.
Ok, so you haven't gotten your period yet - you never know when it is going to start. There is always a risk, no matter how small. Other than pregnancy, have you thought about that possibility that you can get an STI? That's something you'd have to live with - maybe for the rest of your life.
2007-07-26 01:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you have SEX at 14 and you get PREGNANT what would your mum and dad say? you can get PREGNANT even without you having you first periods so don't believe that rubbish your Friends are young and dumb for even telling you that if your so wanting to have SEX then go and use your hand to masturbate its the safest thing right now trust me SEX is not something you just want to give away to anybody think of it as a treasure and then one day a guy will come into your life that you know that will love you for you and wont take advantage of you PLEASE don't have sex it will just crush you that you had it so young don't follow your friends footsteps follow your own in the different path and its not also just pregnancy you can catch an STD or some DISEASE so i wouldn't risk that all to see what its like trust me its not that great and when it is great is when your with the right guy not some guy from school that you wont remember 10 years down the track so please save yourself from the guilt
2007-07-25 22:44:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your friends are complete nut jobs.
Growing up is tough enough with out throwing sex or pregnancy into the mix.
Your first period will arrive AFTER your first ovulation. Are you with me? You become fertile FIRST, then 3 weeks later your period announces you didn't get pregnant.
Sex is fun, but there's no need to rush it. You won't meet the guy who can make it an 'incomparable experience' in Jr High or High School anyway.
Watch and learn from your friends stupid mistakes. Read a few books on the subject so you don't make stupid mistakes regarding birth control.
And to avoid the stupid psychological mistakes, I recommend the following book:
"!0 stupid things Women do to mess up their lives"
Trust yourself. Begin when you're confident you can manage the the risk.
2007-07-25 20:57:38 · answer #11 · answered by Phoenix Quill 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋