i met this GAY guy about 5 mths ago and now we're pretty good friends...i just recently have been crushing on him...i know its weird . Tonight i heard from a friend that knows him too, she said that he is really attracted to my personality and she said that we would date if he wasnt gay...so what do you think? isnt that usually what matters when it comes to liking someone in that way....i mean thats how some ppl even start being gay...for example if a straight girl falls for another girl wouldnt that be the same thing as a gay guy falling for a straight girl....am i right?
in case you needed to know he has been with a girl before....
2007-07-25 18:36:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I agree with your assessment. Nobody should be bound to the labels they give to themselves. I had a similar situation happen with me. A lesbian friend of mine went up on stage during open mic at a coffee house and confessed that "If (she) weren't gay, (she'd) totally want Anthony," and it's like "well, can't you just say 'I'm not gay?'" Not that it would've worked out, because the attraction wasn't mutual, and I was dating the girl who is now my wife. Anyway, the point is -- screw labels. Just be yourself. I'm not straight or gay; I'm attracted to my wife.
2007-07-25 18:48:06 · answer #1 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he says he's gay, you need to take that at face value. you can't pray and hope and reason with yourself that he's straight, because that could very well end up in heartbreak for you. my mom thought she was straight for 35 years of her life, and after three kids and being married for 15 years, she figured out that it wasn't true.
things can always change, but you need to trust that what he's saying is true. i know it really hurts to have a crush on someone who's not available like that, but it's part of being close to someone of the opposite sex.
good luck.
2007-07-25 18:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by vegas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might decide that he's bi and then you could go out with him. You could try asking this in the gay/bi section of Y/A and get answers from people who have been in this situation before.
2007-07-25 18:42:55 · answer #3 · answered by [Insert Cool Name Here] 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key word here is, "if"....IF he wasn't gay, but he is!
Gay people don't turn gay and straight people don't turn straight. People discover their sexuality, but it's there all along. If he's been with girls and says he's gay, you should believe it's the truth.
2007-07-25 18:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
unless he still trying to figure out who he is, i'd say he is gay (from what you say.) he didn't say he was bi.. so i suggest that you not fall for him unless you think he has feelings for you too. i am afraid you might end up being hurt if he gets w/ you then to realize he made a mistake. good luck!
2007-07-25 18:45:04 · answer #5 · answered by claria 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Continue to be his friend. If you aggressively try to convert him, he could decide the friendship isn't worth it. Value what you have now. If that changes, great. If not, it's still not a bad thing.
2007-07-25 18:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by Beavis Seinfeld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its normal that u would like him, its human nature, but if he's gay, he might not be feeling the same, try 2 find out how he really feels about u.
2007-07-25 18:40:40 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Medieval 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, girls are girls and boys are boys. and he is gay.
just stick to borrowing his accessories, it'll make for a much stronger relationship.
2007-07-25 18:41:13 · answer #8 · answered by nodumgys 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋