Is it normal? I hate her with such intensity that it scares me some times. I am not a person who holds a grudge and in the past I have forgiven her for being nasty. But this time she and SIL ganged up against me. Their complaint? That I was friendlier to my husband’s first cuisine more then his own sister. SIL went as far as to say I was never good. I got angry and said if I am not good, don’t come to my house. MIL literally abused me. Now she is staying wit my SIL. (In India its normal to stay with in laws, MIL stayed with us). I have told my husband that I will not live with her. She visited us last weekend; I did not speak to her. I just hate her. AM I being nasty?
2007-07-25 18:28:14 · 16 answers · asked by danny's mom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Flashback..............! OK, if you have genuinely tried to deal with this person than don't even concern yourself with the outcome, because you can only do what is necessary on your part and the rest is on her part, if she doesn't meet you halfway than, forget it! I only hope that her son, your husband is strong enough not to succumb, because most do and that is why their mothers behave like pure %&*&%$%'s. It's devisive!
2007-07-25 19:26:34 · answer #1 · answered by duccees 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. I am in the same situation almost. My mother in law has actually been physically abusive to my baby. I was tricked into going up to her house 1 1/2 away for one night a couple of weeks ago and my husband literally woke me at 4am because I was crying in my sleep.
I hadn't gone up there in 7 months and I will never go back. I have learned that I am the topic of conversation for her and her daughter so although I wanted to protect my husband from the crap I can't deal with it anymore.
If you need to vent please feel free to contact me.
2007-07-25 18:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No....u rnt being nasty at all........it is the phase from which u r going thru. i can imagine u wat all u might have suffered previously but putting an allegation baseless that is wat has upset u the most. It is perfectly ok. Give urself and them some time. Let the time be the healer which may vanish all these knots (no doubt it wud b hard enuf but try is wat u can do .. afterall u have to live there only). make sure that ur husband is aware of all the real facts.
All the best.
2007-07-25 18:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by nice_lady559 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In our culture... it's considered normal to hate MIL.
I think that's because there is a constant struggle to prove who has the power. MIL's have a hard time letting go of their sons.
2007-07-25 18:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by Candy517 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would have my husband deal with his family. His family his responsibility. Your family is yours. Don't make him choose between the two of you, but he must be able to stand up to his own mother and be an adult that the abusive behavior toward his wife is unacceptable and won't be tolerated. You are his wife. He loves you both, and she needs to treat you with the same amount of respect that she shows to him.
2007-07-25 19:13:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
indians have good family values but you need to live far away and socialize not too often. indians also like to involve in gossiping and compete with each other which destroy companionship.indians need to set example as being thought from the ramayan.
2007-07-25 18:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by firewall 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you don´t have to talk to her if you don´t want to.
I don´t like mine either and I don´t want to talk to her. Maybe a simple ¨hi¨ and ¨bye¨, but she does´t deserve even that.
You said she was nasty before and now she and her daughter are creating stories about you.... so, yes, you have a reason to not like her.
2007-07-25 18:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by helloy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure than 70% of women hate their mother in laws.
2007-07-25 18:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by browneyesoxx 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
hey sounds like my family....except I have never been hit by my mother in law....no you will get over it as does everyone when they are mad...just relax and dont get to caught up in the emotion of it all.
2007-07-25 18:33:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's hindu mil's for you, the dil is never good enough for their precious sons, just ignore her, she's being a child and wants you to kiss her ****.
2007-07-25 18:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋