what should i do?

Question

i been with my boyfriend fo r9 months now .he loves me he said .
we argue eveyday about things and when we yell i say bad things to him and he does too.he lives with me and he,well i told him to leave i cant take it nomore.i love him n imhurtiin real bad cant eat or sleep well.i miss him,he was online today and asked do i love him then said i am losing a good thing
which is him i keep callin him should i stop will it push him away more or give him time to cool off and miss me he really loves me and showed me so much attention thisis not like him usually he would of called or came by my door what should i do?willhe return in time or is is thru and should i move on i asked him he wouldnt answr that.i said should i move on .
i called and he hung up 2 times,help me out,,

Answer 1

if hes hanging up on your phone calls...hes not ready to deal with whatever is happening so i think you should give him some space...
in the mean time...try doing some things with your friends and by yourself...stuff that you enjoy and will help keep your mind off of him.
when hes ready to talk and to deal...he will talk to you...but dont wait for him, because you may end up waiting forever...
im not saying go find another guy...because you need some time to figure out what you want and need as well...so just be patient, and try to find yourself with this new found space...
i hope you feel better :)

Answer 2

Maybe the living together part is too much pressure on the both of you right now. Just because you love someone doesn't make it right.

Maybe you guys should take couples counseling if you really do love each other that much. If it's right, this might confirm it and give you two ways to change the bad behaviors. If it's wrong, this is a good arena to talk about it and deal with it in.

Maybe you guys need to live apart and date. rewind a little and go slow. Can't turn back time but you know....

I was seeing someone for 4 yrs, then someone else for 3 yrs...now I am married to someone for almost the last 10....we don't always make great choices....we're allowed to make mistakes and date other people. Sometimes you do lose a good thing but he isn't the only one. Learn from your mistakes and don't make them in the next relationship.

Answer 3

Sad to say I think this relationship is over. That is what dating is about. to really get to know someone. Arguing and yelling on a daily basis is not productive. Do not call anymore. Let things cool down. Then see what happens. If by some chance you get back together you need to problem solve without arguing daily.

Answer 4

We can love someone that we can't live with, but living together makes those little arguments worse. Take a little time to cool off and talk.

One thing that is a concern is that he told you how good of a thing you are losing. That typically indicates someone with a very high opinion of themselves. Keep an eye on that.

Answer 5

Move on. You don't want to go through all that drama for the rest of your life do you?? It's hard to end a relationship esp. when you are living together. But tell yourself you are going to do it and just make it happen.

You will find someone who has all the qualities you want and you won't have to compromise on values/things you want. There is a better match for you out there. Don't waste your time anymore with someone who only partially fits.

Answer 6

I be live you should give him some time to think about it,
find out what on is mined,
don't rush him, i no you can handle that situation,
visit him, or invite him over, sit on talk with him, show him
that you love him, let pass by be pass by,when he get hungry
do not answer, then he will make a change.

Answer 7

I've been in relationships like this and this is not love I thought it was at the time but it's not. Now that I have love I now know the difference. I am not pretending we don't have our arguements but love doesn't hurt. When it becomes painful there is a problem

Answer 8

if he wants to talk to u he'll call you sooner or later but ur the one that told him to leave i wouldn't be shocked if he doesn't come back that was a bad game to play sweetie good luck but sounds like u need to be a lone for a while to realise what u want before u tell someoen to leave again

Answer 9

If you fight everyday that is not healthy. back off, leave him be. it is possible that you guys could work it out and not fight as much, but you need to let him come to you. If he does, then make it work. talk instead of fighting, think about what the fights were about. Can they be avoided?

Answer 10

this is not love. people in love so not do this to each other. love is a wonderful peaceful relationship where you both enjoy each other through thick and thin. you do not argue and say mean things, threaten and push them away.