How many married ppl that love thier spouse, but it is different?

Question

like you have been married for awhile and realize that he or she is out doing there own thing and you are two so you really dont ever really see each other...is this normal??? to not even be with each other except at night when you lay down to go to sleep??

Answer 1

I love my spouse, but we will be getting divorced soon for several different reasons. But to answer your question, his job takes him out of town 2 weeks out of the month and when he's in town, we try to make up for lost time (sexually). We used to do everything together, now we'll have a quick lunch and then he's off to run errands the rest of the day by himself. We'll meet back up for dinner or later. I don't like it, I am already alone when he's out of town. Some people probably function better like that. I am sure that every couple is different, but only being together at night is fine, if both people prefer it that way. Go with what works!

Answer 2

Its only normal if this is what you want from your marriage my husband and I have been married 10 years and still can't get enough of each other we have our own business so he works long hours but we try and go on a date once a month without the kids and now and then Like to day he will take the day off so we can go out for lunch and or stuff together.He still buy me flowers etc so you two have to work on you two and see how much fun it can be.

Answer 3

Now a days it is hard to be romantic but try not to lose the flame. There is always something you can do. Yes it is normal. My husband and I work and have a baby so the only time we get to see each other is at night. Play hookie if you can to spend time together or you can for sake the sleep and give each other 20 to 30 minutes before bed to chat. Write letters back and forth and leave them in his car so he see's it when he leaves for work in the morning.

Answer 4

Yes and no. We used to spend almost every minute of every day together. Now, we have busy jobs, lots of responsibilities, and a 2 yr old son. We don't want to send him to daycare, so we work opposite shifts and take turns watching him. That means we don't spend much time together, no.

BUT we try to make the time we do spend together count, we don't fight about silly things, and we still enjoy each other's company. Love is still good!

Answer 5

Sweetie when you say has their own life what do you mean? is this a choice that he goes out with friends or is this because of work related issues. this is what you have to ask yourself. I would not want to have separate life from my husband. I would want to spend time with him and not just go and sleep by his side. this to me would not be too much of a relationship. it sounds like you have lots of talking to do. you need to discover what the issues are with him and figure what you are going to do with that information.

Answer 6

NO IT'S NOT NORMAL AT ALL!! I'VE BEEN MARRIED 17 YRS. HAVING OUR 4TH KID AND JUST FOUND OUT IT'S A BOY WE HAVE 3 GIRLS AND I'VE NEVER FELT SO ALONE IN MY LIFE. HE'S JOB CONSUMES HIM AND WHILE THIS SHOULD BE THE MOST JOYOUS TIME IT'S THE SADNESS FOR ME. GOSH GUESS I WASN'T MUCH HELP, BUT ANYONE OUT THERE WILLING TO THROW SOME IDEAS OR SUGGESTIONS?

Answer 7

This must be some kind of an omen.....I wanted to ask the same question......I love my husband, we have been married almost 2 years..but i hardly get time with him.....he is busy with his job, his Friends his family, his TV or his PC......the max time we spend together is sleeping......is time to go our separate ways? m so confused..

Answer 8

Life is so hectic that we are sometimes lucky to get the night time together. No, it is not unusual. It is very common.

Answer 9

Absolutely! We had nothing but quality time until we had our babies...

It sounds really cliche' but "Date Night" is the way to go!