help please someone?!?!?!?

Question

i want to die. i really do. i just can't even handle my lfie anymore. my friend killed herself about 2 months ago and now my other friend is a cociane and exctasy user and abuser. im going into 9th grade and 14. (there 15) i just have nowhere to turn. i have also been having increasing panic attacks and i can barly breath and my face is red and i run away from friends when we hang out and i get nervous all the time.

i just want to run away. i have been dealing with my sexuality and have been delaing with social and fmaily problems on top of what happened above. me goign to hgih school me being bisexual my mom always being on my bad side. i just plainly give up.

Answer 1

Try counseling..talk to a school counselor and maybe change who you hang out with for a while sounds as if your friends are not helping you at the moment and might be adding to your bad emotions right now.

here are some links that might help you:
http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/
http://www.hopeline.com/
http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html
http://suicidehotlines.com/
http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
http://www.spsfv.org/hotlines.htm
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqxrZvmocMhWLjWxApno7RcjzKIX?qid=20070303203718AAx8VTT

Answer 2

Well it is hard to know if this is a serious question or not being the internet and all, but if you are then this is what I think.

1st, you can't let your friends actions dictate your life. It is a sad state of affairs that young children can do the things that you mention. Turning to drugs or suicide is never something you should resort to for solving a problem.

2nd, you are at such a young age, you are just coming into your own. You have so much life to live and so many chances to make it a life that is wonderful and that you dream of. I know those years are very awkward for almost everyone. We dont really know who we are, what we want, we think our parents are out to get us, we think nobody will listen, we think we are always right and so on and so forth. A lot of the times people at that age don't have the strength to deal with so much, and it is difficult.

You are way too young to give up on yourself. If I were you I would seriously consider speaking to a counselor at your school about your problems. They can be very helpful and are also somebody that can look at your situation from a non biased stand point. Also, you could check around your community for some kind of support groups or anything like that for troubled teens/children. Maybe there are other kids out there like you, and you help each other if you cant get it anywhere else.

Regardless, I would seek professional help. Whether it is something you would have to pay for or whether it is free. You need to speak to a professional about these types of issues. Answers you get on a forum like this are not a substitute for professional advice and should be taken with a grain of salt. I hope that you are able to work through your problems...Good luck

Answer 3

First count the blessings around you. You probably need to see a counselor or doctor about your panic disorders. They can help you! It sounds like you are stressed out and if you had someone to vent to, you would feel better. You are so young to give up! Don't do what your other peers have. Pick a positive role model. Do something positive with your time that will in turn bring out the best in you. For example, helping those less fortunate like the homeless, or humanes society will make you feel good about what you are doing and brighten someones day at the same time. Be a big brother and help out a child that could be suffering the same way. Turn your negative energy into something positive. Always remember it could always be worse. At least you are not a prisoner of war, or homeless on the streets, right? There are 2 blessings....Keep counting! Don't let your mother get to you. I grew up with a mother that always said horrible things to me. Please don't let your mother bring you down. Keep yourself busy so you don't butt heads with her, and before you know it you'll be out on your own! I left home when I was 16, got a job and my own apartment, my GED and then I went to college, and bought 2 houses. I proved to everyone that just because I came from a terrible up bringing, I could handle my own. I never gave up. Everything is just a challenge along with a learning experience. Life is a big game, you just have to learn to make the right moves. Just say bring it on, and work your way through it! You will be fine! Everyone gets depressed at times. go for a walk or watch a funny movie. Hang out with someone who really inspires you. Read a good book. I hope you get something out of this! I have been where you are, it can be really tough. If you like to read, The Lost Boy and a Child called it are some great non-fiction books about a boy who went through a terrible childhood and brought something positive to the world, even after all the pain and suffering his mother put him through. They are really inspiring books.

Answer 4

It is a very selfish thing to do to kill yourself. How do you feel that your friend killed herself? Are you mad at her - I mean wasn't that selfish of her? To take herself away from the people who loved her? You loved her. There are people who love you just as much. You and your mom are not getting along now, but this is not going to last forever. Me and my mom didn't get along all through my teen years - but today we are best friends and we are very close. So, you may have a closeness with your mom when you are older that you can not even imagine right now.

Everyone has wanted to die or run away at some time or another. Life is very hard and it is a struggle for everyone. Some people do struggle worse than others. But our struggles are not in vain. They make us stronger people, more compassionate, more understanding. You are going through all this crap and if you work through it it will make you a stronger person for the next time a big storm hits you.

There are many avenues of help out there - try them all till you find what works for you. Talk to a councilor, friend, seek God, go to church, read self help books, go to support meetings for people who have lost loved ones, or start keeping a journal.

Answer 5

Keep one thing in mind, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I can completely understand the panic attacks, considering how out of control things in your life seem to be right now. It's worse when you're under age, you have so many limits on your choices, and so many people trying to steer you into their idea of what your life should be. The best thing I can recommend is to hook up with people who are sharing similar experiences, and compare notes. Check the links below, there should be someone who can at least tell you what they did, or who would be willing to just talk. You can also do a search in your city, to see if you can hook up for some face to face time with someone.

Hang in there, and I hope this helps.

Answer 6

baby boy... i'm sorry you feel so sad!!! being that age is sooo hard, you're struggling with all kinds of things - just know that you HAVE to look inward and FOCUS on the things that you love and are good at (don't laugh) I felt like i wasn't good at anything and i still haven't found anything that i'm good enough at to strike it rich. BUT I am a great mom and I'm smart and I have alot to offer & so do you!!!
don't give up!!!! you dig in and find something you love... volunteer at a shelter ( i always liked dogs better than people : ) learn to play the piano, visit sick people, play on a softball team, go sing karaoke
i know some of those things sound trivial, but life is all about the journey... not the destination. If you can't get past these feelings, plese tell a responsible adult
Good Luck!!!!!!

Answer 7

Hi, sorry to hear you are feeling so bad. You need tell your doctor or school consellor asap. Please hang in there - this horrible feeling will pass.

The following steps will eliminate (or at least significantly reduce) your panic attacks (please take note of no.1 especially):

1.Breathe properly - if you control your breathing, you control panic. As soon as you notice the signs of anxiety, check your breathing: breathe in slowly through your nose pushing your tummy out (to the count of 5 or so). Breathe out slowly and for a bit longer (to the count of 7 or so) through your mouth. Do not breathe rapidly or shallowly (in the chest area). This will soon restore the balance of oxygen and you will feel a lot better.

2. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy! CBT is proven to be the most effective thing for panic attacks, OCD and anxiety etc. It takes a bit of work, but it is super effective. (After 15 years of panic attacks, mine stopped completely). You can speak to your doctor about taking a course or you can take a course for free online at: www.livinglifetothefull.com Alternatively you can get special CBT workbooks for children. You could try ‘Think Good - Feel Good: A Cognitive Behaviour Therapy Workbook for Children and Young People’ by Paul Stallard


3. Try relaxation exercise tapes (progressive muscular relaxation). They really make a difference if you practise often enough (i.e. twice a day). They will also help you sleep better if done at bedtime. You can get free downloads online. E.g.: http://www.studentservices.utas.edu.au/counselling/audio_resources/index.html

With each step practise makes perfect. (i.e. practise the steps every day, not just when you are feeling bad). I hope you feel better soon. Best of luck!

Answer 8

Dude I grew up with an alcoholic mother who beat the **** out of me, a dad who was a truck driver and on the road all the time, my sister was getting beat up by her husband every night, and my brother was gay. So believe me its now 18 years later and I turned out O.K. So will you. I went through depression and all of what you are, but it WILL get better.....I have forgiven my mom and she no longer drinks and I always loved my brother even though people were mean, and my sisters husband has become a born again christian. At the time I would have never believed it would happen, but I hung in there and through the tough times I would write or draw or sing....Dont do it man, You will be Fine. Go to a local church if you need to for support.....Love ya

Answer 9

Giving up isn't right. Yes, this may seem like old news. I know you seriously want to give up right away, and just end everything by dying. But when you try and face death, you'll truly regret it.

Death isn't something that you should tamper with, nor be involved with. Have you tried getting help? Please don't be afraid of opening up and sharing with others. Because once you push everyone away, you may end up being more lonely than ever. I have a tendancy of doing that alot, I have trouble with feelings and emotions. If you were to do the same, it wouldn't make your life feel easier.

I am currently 13. I have witnessed death and divorce at age 11. I'm having the usual relationship problems, and I'm deciding if I should have sex or not. Most likely not, I will wait. My cousin almost died of alcohol poisoning. I overdose on NyQuil when I get depressed. I always wanted to try smoking marijuana and wanted to get drunk, but I never seem to get the chance to. I will not drink, or smoke. You will never understand anything, unless you try, huh? [But that does NOT mean 'try and commit suicide] D=<

We all have a story to tell. I've told mine. Get help, aye? Maybe try and open up to your mother, make her see everything on your point of view.

--Cristina.

Answer 10

Don't give up. Call someone close to you now! If not family, then a good friend that would want to talk to you anytime. Times get tough. You cannot give up so easily, look at all the good and bad times you will have in your life. What did you think of when your friend killed herself? Hang in there stuff happens for a reason.

Answer 11

Oh my gosh please don't feel like that!!!! There is nothing wrong with your sexuality 1st off. That's what you chose. And that's okay. 2nd you can't help what your friends did and what they are doing. The friend who is doing drugs just needs talking to. Be the one to help that person stop. And your still young don't think about killing yourself or dying. Your going to high school!!!!!! That is so much fun! You don't want to miss out on that part of your life. And be for you do anything. Think about all the people who love you and would be crushed and saddened if you did that. I wish my dad would have thought about me before he killed himself. Please get some help. Talk to somebody. Don't throw away your life at this age! I hope I helped I really do! Good luck with everything and I hope everything gets better for you!