Would you go to a funereal of a person you hated?

Question

I was pondering this query, there is a person I know and dislike, if that person died would I attend the funereal? I am not so sure I would, btw, the person is actually a close relative.

Answer 1

Yes. And once everyone else left. I'd make a little speech and urinate on their grave.

Answer 2

If it's someone I hate, heck no, I don't go to their funeral. I just feel they probably did so many people so dirty that they numbered their own days and their time came. But in your case, since it's a close relative: Just go to the funeral out of respect for your other family members and to keep the peace. Otherwise, you'll never live it down. They'll talk about you not going for days to come. Unless the person really badly mistreated you or something (I wouldn't go then). But if you just didn't like 'em, go anyway, get it over with. It'll make your aunts, your Grandma, etc. happy that you went, cuz it's probably no secret in your family that you dislike the person, right? Keep the peace and go to the funeral. You might feel guilty afterwards if you don't go. Ya feel me???

Answer 3

Well, every situation can be different, but I believe that if you hated the person, there is no need for your to go to a funeral, to "pay your respects."

I did not get along, at all, with my father and when he died, I did not attend the funeral. Why would I? If I didn't want to see him or be around him when he was alive, then why would I want to "pay respects" to him by showing up to his funeral.

I guess you could ask yourself this..."Would this person want me there?" Maybe that can help guide you in the right direction.

Answer 4

close relative or not if I don't like the person I'm not wasting my time, losing my pay for the day and wasting hours that I could have spent studying. Sorry but college does not accept "my relative died" as an excuse for a late assignment.

Call me cold hearted but I have disowned ALL my cousins, aunts and uncles. So if they died tommorow I'd be like "that's nice"

Now I have disowned them each for personal reasons and for GOOD reasons. So I do not feel bad at all.

Answer 5

I think hating is a harsh word. The whole point of a funeral is for the family left behind and to show them that they have support during their hard times. I would go and pray that the persons soul is at peace and be the bigger person.

Answer 6

Depends. It's my opinion that funerals are for the living. Even if I despised the person who died, I would probably still go to the funeral to support the deceased's family and friends if I cared about THEM.

Answer 7

Actually that happened to me. There was a person in my family that I couldn't stand and that person had passed away. I did attend the funeral only out of respect and obligation for my family.

If it was outside of my family then no I would not attend the funeral.

Answer 8

Yeah to check they really were dead!

PS I've gone to funerals of hated relatives ... it's fine, really. It makes you realise they're just a human and mortal like everyone else. I found it very healing actually.

Answer 9

I think I would. If I absolutely despised the person I would still go because It would mean alot to family and friends of the deceased. If it was a relative, absolutely.

Answer 10

I wouldn't say I hated the guy, but I went to the funeral of somebody I didn't like very much. He was a co-worker.

Answer 11

I wouldn't go if I hated the person. Do you really hate the person?
Don't go if you feel that way; you're not being forced to go and what purpose would it serve to go if you have such strong hateful feelings. You want to pay your respects, not your hate.