now im 20yrs old and i want to leave the relationship but i feel i need him in my life. i've been with him for 3yrs he has helped me so much in my life. he protects me from anything that comes my way. yet he hurts me so much. he tells me he loves me and i want to believe him but the fact of knowing that his married kills me inside. when i bring the subject up of his wife he tells me he dont kiss her or have any kind of sexual intercourse with her. i want to believe him because he spends so much time with me. ive never have asked him to leave his wife because i knew from the beginning of the relationship he was married. now that we have been together for 3years he has been telling me he wants to leave his home to be with me. im so confussed because i want him to be with me but i dont want him to leave his kids. i tell him to wait two more years until im done with school. but im afraid of what the future might hold for us.
2007-07-25 12:58:15 · 17 answers · asked by why me?? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This guy has a 20 year old playmate and nothing else with you. Dude is using you from top to bottem and you take his families leftovers. Get some respect for yourself, because he does not respect you. You have no future with this man. Who would want to be a cheater anyways? Think about it. Oh, he is still having sex with his wife, he just tells you that he does not and he probably kisses her good bye each morning and tells her that he loves her every night before they crawl into the same bed together.
2007-07-25 13:06:25 · answer #1 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I wonder if drums know when they are being played ? Just like you they don't know. Sweetheart, you may be a very nice person but even Ray Charles could see this one. You are being taken advantage of. There is only one solution for you to make to eliminate this problem. Leave the married person alone. And , yes it is really that simple. Just stop doing this and start doing something that's right. In the two years that you are giving this creep will only get you two years older in the same situation. He's not going to leave his wife , he's going to continue to tell you the things that you want to hear, and he'll continue to string you along until you wake up . The sooner you stop being a fool the sooner you can get on to living and enjoying the life that you deserve.
2007-07-25 19:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him being married doesn't kill you that much or you would have left by now. If you really wanted him to be a good father you wouldn't have to sneak around with a man who was married and who had children. If you really didn't want to be a home wrecker you would have told him no or not approached him after knowing he was married.
You are still very young and easily able to find someone and create a RESPECTFUL relationship where you wont be used.
If he really didn't like her and liked you he would have divorced her a long time ago. But now its been more than three years and you continue to believe all his lies. He will string you along as long as you let him. Even if that's until you become pregnant with his child. Then he will drop you like a bad habit and there you will be. 30 years old with a baby and no real relationship experience other than sneaking around with some old man.
You make the bed you sleep in.
2007-07-25 13:07:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good that you don't want him to leave his kids but what about his wife? Have you thought about her feelings? How would you feel if you were treated the way that she is? If you marry him then he will probably start cheating on you at some point. Once a cheater, always a cheater!! Of course you are no better then he is because you knew he was married.
2007-07-25 13:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just dump him. He is a married father & needs to be tending to his family. Stop giving in to him. It is immoral. You sure wouldn't want some lady sleeping with your guy if you actually had one.
You are old enough to know better, you even knew from the beginning he was married. He didn't leave his wife then, so he most certainly isn't going to leave her now.
2007-07-25 13:21:58 · answer #5 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go and move on and have no conatct with him again unless he leaves his wife. He will say anything to keep his bit on the side and your foolish enough to belive it. Stop all contact and tell him if he is serious about you then he can only contact you after he has ended the marrage, it is unfair on his wife it is unfair on his children and it is unfair on you to carry on the way you are. plus whilst you are not incontact you are free to meet anyone else and maybe that is for the better - only time would really tell - but whatever you do don't trick yourself in to waiting for him.
2007-07-25 13:19:25 · answer #6 · answered by TJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You messed up by being the sideline chick. He's comfortable with the arrangement and he will never leave his family. You've waited for someone who has been to the places you want to go. Sometimes that's not always good. Your education is most important..stick with that.
Karma is a *****, it always comes back around.
2007-07-25 13:06:45 · answer #7 · answered by Mekia 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't kiss his wife or have sex with her? Sorry my dear but that's a load of crap!Get out and get someone you don't have to share. You're still young and you will be able to live with out him. Even if he left his wife for you he would do the same thing to you that he did to her.
2007-07-26 00:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by lillulu460 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cripes. You two are made for each-other. You got involved with a married man with children and he's having an affair. Are you kidding? I say whatever happens happens. His wife should kick your a** and then divorce him taking everything he owns. That would be a happy ending!
2007-07-25 13:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by Lori E 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
you are being used by this guy. you need to live his behind " yesterday" . he will never live his wife for you. trust me. and also are you willing to break up a family for your happiness, your young and i am sure you will find someone who really loves you. do you think he will be faithfull to you if you ever married him? once a cheater always a cheater
2007-07-25 13:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by niblzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋