I have a close friend who just lost her Dad a few weeks ago. Her Mom is in pretty bad shape and may not last long. A bunch of us girls wanted to take our friend to dinner and do something special for her - just to perk her up. She is always doing things for everyone else and we know that she is worn out. Does anyone have any good ideas?
2007-07-25 12:57:19 · 12 answers · asked by Trixie98 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If she's worn out, it would be better to take her to your place. It can be a lot of stress being in a public spot when you'd like to cry. Get great take-out and sit around in comfy chairs or on pillows. Oh, and let her talk even if it doesn't seem on the topic.
What about going with her for a joint massage session? Don't leave her alone because she'll probably think sad thoughts and feel worse. If massage is not joint or too much, try pedicures. Then go home for the dinner.
2007-07-25 13:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that happeend 2 me a few months ago, my friends mom died of cancer. the best thing u can do is just be there for her. let her kno u care. she may want to be around her mom 4 a lil while cuz her familys obv. going throgh a hard time. at first try making her and her mom dinner and bring it 2 her house with a movie and popcorn nd a few movies. when shes ready to get out of the house, u can take her to the beach, on a boatride, to a amusement park, something where ur with her 2 be comfoorting and so her mind doesnt wander to a bad palace. good lkuck
2007-07-25 20:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by LOV 4 EVE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Losing someone you care about, is a lot of pain to go through. I suggest that before perking her up, you should give her some time. Try talking to her about how she feels. Then, gradually, tell her that she still has people who care about you and that her Dad is still in her prescence [in her heart], you know what I mean? When she has recovered, ask her what she wants to do for fun. If you try to make her have fun and perk up, if might end up in disaster because she may not be ready to do that...yet.
I hope this helps!
2007-07-25 20:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by Roxas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend more time with her whether its at home or outside. dont show her that u r trying so hard to cheer her up, this might not work. just try to b cheerful in a way that she doesnt figure out ur sympathy openly.
apart from cheering her up in ur own way, ask her if there's anything u can do to help or anything she'd like u to do for her or any place she'd like to go to or things she'd like to do.
she might b needing something from u but doesnt feel like asking.
one of my friends asked me to take her to the beach where she cried out her pain without being in the eyes of the guests
2007-07-26 11:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, don't. Losing one parent and the thought that you might lose the other rather soon, you do not need a byunch of people bringing attention to it by trying to cheer you. When someone dies you grief, it is natural,let her. She will be fine just let her know that you all are there for her and then drop it.
2007-07-25 20:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my mom 3 years a go there's really nothing you can do just be there when they need you to listen dont start a conversation regarding this matter let them
2007-07-25 20:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by lushes lips 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first make her realise that she had lost only one relation and she has a bunch of relations (you all). taking her to dinner or somewhere will make her feel alone so just leave her and treat her as she is not different .After a month or later u proceed as you like
2007-07-25 20:19:08 · answer #7 · answered by vinod 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop putting so much pressure on yourself. Nothing you can do can heal the pain she is feeling. So stop thinking you can. Just be there for her, love her, and let time heal this wound.
I will say a prayer for your friend.
2007-07-25 20:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her out to the spa, then dinner and movie. she will love it
2007-07-25 20:01:00 · answer #9 · answered by niblzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to be there fore her is the best thing you can do, hate to hear it god bless
2007-07-25 20:00:13 · answer #10 · answered by Gene 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋