I'll try to sum this up quickly. Ever since college my husband has been unsure about his career. He got a history major b/c he didn't know what to do and thought "I can always teach." Soon after college he married and joined the Army - again avoiding choosing a life career for the next 4 years. After the Army he got a job at a factory b/c the pay and benefits were good. Once again, avoiding the career issue.
Now he's frustrated with the factory job (he can't really advance like a professional would). He wants to find his career. He hates math and science so med school and engineering and electrical and other such jobs are out. He has no interest in law school. So we're back to teaching. But we can't support a family of 5 on it and pay off debts.
Any other career ideas? And guys....can you tell me if is this a common problem with men??
2007-07-25 12:43:01 · 13 answers · asked by Veritas 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We are both committed to me staying at home with the children so 2 incomes is not an option.
I'm so frustrated - I want to help my husband make a good choice but we have been talking about this for 10 YEARS!
2007-07-25 12:46:37 · update #1
Good suggestion about part-time job - but what part-time job can you make a lot of money at?
2007-07-25 12:48:55 · update #2
We're in Kansas. Yep he's 30 years old. LOL
Does law enforcement pay well? Will he take a huge pay cut at first? He makes 45k now.
2007-07-25 12:59:21 · update #3
Hi Veritas,
I think this is common in both men and women. He's young, 30, so don't start worrying about that. Does he have any hobbies and, if so, can any of those translate into a career? For example, I'm a certified make-up artist and am a pretty talented jewelry maker (talented but need more skills to broaden my spectrum of design). I stopped pursuing the make-up artistry years ago because it required a lot of freelancing and I need to feel secure about my paychecks. I love making the jewelry but I only sell a little bit of it because I haven't really poured myself into it like I would like to and, truthfully, I make very good money with my current employer (almost eleven years now). However my ideal career would be in the handmade jewelry business. My point is that perhaps your husband has a hobby that he can turn into a career. Also, it is possible that your husband can move into a more lucrative post in a factory environment or within the offices of the company that he currently works for. It really just depends on the industry and ,of course, the economics of the city in which he works.
I hope this is helpful to you.
2007-07-25 17:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by CUrias 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My huby and I have a similar issue. We refuse to put our kids (we have 2, ages 3 and 6 months) in the sorry excuses they call day cares. The one that everyone says is supposed to be the best around the kids hate being there. So I stay home with them or take them with me to voluteer at our christian school at our church(volunteer not accepting pay).
Well since 2 days before we got married my huby hasnt had a job in the field he loves and got a degree for. He has tried several things but what has really paid the best is suprisingly the prison system. He started out 3 years ago at the state prison and this past november switched to the federal which came with a good pay raise. It is a stressful job but in this area it is the best paying thing around other than walmart distribution. While he was at the state job, he did need and had several side jobs(security mostly, and one graphic design-what his degree was in, and pizza delivery-which wasnt really worth it). Most people he said that got a second job while at the state aparently went to the nearest advance auto. But thankfully he hasnt needed a side job since he transfered to the federal system.
Anyways sorry to be so long. I hope this helps and God Bless.
2007-07-25 20:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by answerteam 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about HE stays home with the kids and YOU get the full time job ?!?!
It works for many people these days. If you have a degree (other than a worthless history degree), then you could probably make more money.
Sorry for the crack on the degree, but people should really THINK when they go to college, not just go. The paper you walk out the door with must be marketable, or you are just treading water and wasting time and money.
2007-07-25 19:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by aa889d 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
2 choices. Either he figures out something that he can do well, he likes, and eventually make good money. Odds are, he won't be making great money until he moves up the corporate latter and he'll be starting from near the bottom. The other option is to find a sales job that he can excel in. If successful, you can make big money fairly early on.
2007-07-25 19:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by David B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not ....just as common in women , if he wants to teach maybe you could go out and get a part time job to help with the bills .... he could continue with his factory job( because of the pay and benefits) and do tutoring from home after work or on weekends .... extra money for your family and maybe help your husbands desire to do something more
2007-07-25 19:52:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need to know age, I'm guessing 30. It's pretty common, but at least he hasn't given up. How about law enforcement, theres a wide field of teaching, different job classifications. Prison system, all phases. Need to know state your in.
2007-07-25 19:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by larry m♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this may sound ambiguous but if he has a history major he may try to apply for a job at a museum history and could advance up to a director job on a certain field of history. It may not be to late
2007-07-26 02:55:57 · answer #7 · answered by Lelia Pop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he might consider looking for a job that doesnt REQUIRE a certain type of degree, just a degree.
Quite often HR jobs fall into this category.
2007-07-25 19:46:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should seek a life coach for counseling to find out how he can put his desires into action. Good luck!
2007-07-25 19:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he can get a teaching job and have a second part time job on the side
2007-07-25 19:47:20 · answer #10 · answered by niblzz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋