ok so my girlfriend an i use to have sex all the time. and two moths ago we had a incident where we thought she had gotten pregnant i was really scared and we stop having sex after that.now she told me that she wants to do it really badly and i dont want to, not after that. but im affraid she might go to someone else but on the other hand i do love her im happy being with her but sometimes it seems like she doesnt she doesnt try to make me happy and if she gets pregnant ima be stuck with her for ever probably wat should i do??
2007-07-25 11:21:22 · 12 answers · asked by JUAN G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we do use protection too but is not 100% safe
2007-07-25 11:32:49 · update #1
Well I have to say being a female if you don't sexually please her in one way or another, She might go somewhere else and get it. Sex between two people who are in love is a connection and bond. Sex is a feeling of closeness to each other. Something you two share together. And you say you love her, but if she gets pregnant you are stuck with her 4ever, Well that is cold to say, especially if you say you love her??? Ok here is an example, if you hit your finger with a hammer you gonna stop using the hammer? You bite your tongue, you gonna stop eating? You don't have to stop sex, you have opitions out there to use so you two do not get pregnant...Stopping sex is a good way not to get pregnant, but you have other ways to please her, you have four play with out sex... But I have to agree with the others replying, use protection and please your woman....
2007-07-25 11:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by Jody W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off use protection if you don't want a baby! Second sex does matter. If you really love each other then its a way to show it. Talk to her and let her know how you feel she might feel the same about becoming pregnant. But don't just not have sex with her, that is part of the relationship.
2007-07-25 18:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by ktdmama3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, this is going to sound really crude or heartless but it's not. First of all, why are you two having unprotected sex? She should be on the pill and you should use a condom. Second of all, it sounds to me like if you continue to deal with this girl, she will get pregnant. And while you may not have to deal with her or the baby for the rest of your life, you will legally have to pay child support for the next 18 years! Run! Run! Move on to a better relationship with someone who is going to be responsible for their body as you should be to. You need to concentrate on education, making money, becoming stable. Date a lot of people, you shouldn't have a girlfriend so young any way. Enjoy life and lots of girls. You have the rest of your adult life to be married and tied to one person. Good luck.
2007-07-25 18:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're questioning the relationship maybe you should talk to her about it. Ask her how she feels about you and if she sees a future. And if you dont want to have sex anymore, then dont let her talk you into it. I think if you guys are scared to have a kid right now, you shouldn't have sex, you're not ready, because really, what IF it does happen? Then what? Just talk to her about where she is in the relationship and if she's not where you are, I think it's time for you to move on.
2007-07-25 18:27:00 · answer #4 · answered by Lucky Colette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woh. well, as lame as it sounds, sex is pretty serious. if you're not ready for the consequences then it's best if you not have sex. but, it was just a scare. if i had a knickle for how many times my b/f and i had a pregnancy scare... well, my point is, it happens. you cant let something like that scare you. time to get back on the horse... or, in this case, your girl.
and if she's not the girl you see yourself with, then maybe you should evaluate your relationship.
2007-07-25 18:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by estoerrific 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sadly sex does matter, as humans we're sexual creatures. why are you worried it's called protection my bf and i use condoms and i take birth control pills. but by the sounds of things you wouldn't be able to handle a kid so no sex might be a good idea. try talking to her.
2007-07-25 18:26:51 · answer #6 · answered by Hannah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could tell her if she wants to have sex with you, she should get on birthcontrol. Or use a condom. If used/taken correctly, it's pretty much guaranteed not to get pregnant.
And there are other ways to have fun sexually without intercourse.
2007-07-25 18:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard of a rubber? Sex does matter but foreplay can be very satisfying. Toys can be fun too.
2007-07-25 18:30:43 · answer #8 · answered by ERIC E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should be on birth control pills... the safest way, condoms are better than nothing but not that safe. sooner or later you will be tempted, so take care of it now, or you will be married soon and a father.
2007-07-25 18:24:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is. i was in a marriage that was sex less for 2 years. i loved him and we had a great friendship but i needed that physical connection. we are since divorced and still friends but yes, sex is important.
2007-07-25 18:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by thejenmartin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋