So my sons papa called cause he got vacation and wanted taken my 11yr old for a week even tho they just had a week with him. i told them that because they let my son spend 6-8 hrs on a pc against my wishes i said no and he hung up. Then he stops by my place and when i tell him my son has Karate class on Saturday he f u and throws and ice cappuccino at me(and i'm pregnant), ruining my carpet and furniture. The smell is unbearable and i have to steam clean everything and it'll take 2 days and its also an added expense out of my pocket.
I filed a police report and they asked me if i wanted to file charges for assault but i said no but now i wondering was what he did really assault? and what would you do if this happened to you?
2007-07-25 11:04:20 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
my 11yr old is now scared of him so i won't let him go to his house again but how do i explain to him why it happened.
2007-07-25 11:06:01 · update #1
i live in ontario canada
2007-07-25 11:07:57 · update #2
this was not my sons father it was his paternal grandfather he just calls him papa and he is 52 yrs old.
2007-07-25 11:11:45 · update #3
First off, i would reccomend the dad take some anger managment classes. Second, yea that is assult. he hit you with something.
2007-07-25 11:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by Kevy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would file charges of assault for two reasons. For one thing, he threw an iced coffee at you. Had that been hot, you would have been scalded. As it is, considering that you're pregnant, you still could have been injured.
Secondly, I don't know what visitation laws are like in Canada, but if you're now saying No you won't let the boy go visit him, and he has court ordered visitation, filing charges of assault will go a long ways in getting the court to agree the boy should no longer see him.
2007-07-25 18:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by sonofstar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What he did was assault. Generally, assault is either threatening to hit soemone, or trying to hit someone and missing. He missed hitting you with the cappuccino. That's assault. Had he hit you, it would have been battery.
If he has a history of doing this type of thing, then you should have pressed charges, if not, let it slide. He may be a jerk, but he's also your child's father. Unless it has historically been a problem (or it becomes one), chalk it up to his having a really bad day.
2007-07-25 21:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by mcmufin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a real jewel. He made a mistake but you are using your child as a pawn.
He should have gotten visitation rights and when you refused he should have taken you to court. If he was here I'd tell him he was wrong but you were wrong too and you need help to understand that you don't control the world. I'm sure I'll get lots of thumbs down but your a control freak and you need some help.
2007-07-25 18:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by Village Player 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
100% YES please file the assault charges against him.
No person has a right to act and do what this sad example of a man has done to you and in front of your son. I will file charges of assault against him IMMEDIATELY.
If this is how he acts over YOUR wishes for YOUR son then I would hate to see what else he is capable of in the future. You need to protect yourself and your son (and future baby) at all costs. DO NOT open the door for this man or answer his calls. He has a screw loose!!!! I would never let me son go anywhere with him again, ever.
2007-07-25 18:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jill B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, and if its not assault its property damage and you can probably take him to small claims court to make him pay the bill for the cleaning.
And its not safe for the kids, what if he chucks somethng at them, and its hot this time? They could be disfigured. And its a bad example.
And unless he has court ordered visitation rights, then you don't have to let your kids go anywhere with him, and he should mind his manners if he hopes to see them again
2007-07-25 18:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by Sugarshots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This COULD be battery. In most states, the threat of bodily contact is assault. The actual contact is battery.
Check your local laws to see if the extension of the drink constitutes battery.
Best of luck!
2007-07-25 18:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by christina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically it is an assault but a very weak case for litigation. I think I would have allowed my son to spend more time with his dad but would ask them both not to spend so much time on the PC. I personally would not file an asault charge for having a drink poured on me and would try to have a more civil relationship with my son's father for my son's benefit.
2007-07-25 18:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by Raven 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's assault in some states, yes. In Illinois, it's considered battery.
2007-07-25 18:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh yeah w/ u being pregnant and all he should have not done anything so that causes just a bigger problem and i think if guys cant hit girls they shouldn't' do that either so file those charges for assault he deserves getting the punishment
2007-07-25 18:20:17 · answer #10 · answered by emeraldgreen_26 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋