my boyfriend cums after like 30 seconds...?

Question

during sex my boyfriend cums after like 30 seconds. Its really annoying as it means i dont get much out of sex. How can i make him last longer!!!!

Answer 1

the secret is to use foreplay. let him go down on you and give you some oral and let him play with u.ater some tiem with this, then start getting into the actual sex, and when he's about to *** he should stop movemant and take all of his thoughts off of cumming or anything of the similar bleh bleh bleh. it actually quite helps, its mostly in the mind, and have him tell you when he's about to ***, because then you can relax your pelvic muscles or w/e theyre called and help him calm down so to speak

there is a thing called "tantric sex." Its a method of sex that basically increases stamina GREATLY. and when i say greatly, i mean... greatly hahah. its a method thats been practiced since ancient times. it might be the thing for you and your boyfriend

Answer 2

*** In 30 Seconds

Answer 3

If he can get back up again after cumming try getting that first one out of the way. Usually they can last longer the second round.

He might masterbate too much or possibly not enough. If he doesn't stimulate it often and when it does get stimulated its a rush all at once. He needs to try to desensitize it. There are desensitizing creams available over the counter.

If that doesn't work, if he's over 18, he could go to the doctor and see what the doctor can prescribe for him.

Answer 4

Okay well first of all that really does suck. BUT what you guys need to do is let him rub the first one out before you get started. Usually, a guy will *** fast on the first go around, but on the second time, it will last ALOT longer. So you can either try that or your boyfriend needs to get more control, my boyfriend tells me that he could *** after that long, but he wants to make sure I get something out of it. Also, have him try foreplay and take "breaks" for oral during intercourse.

Answer 5

Thats for him to figure out, but 30 seconds is normal for a first timer.....insist that he gives you face till youve had at least one orgasm, that way it wont matter how long or short his action is. Also try to convince him to relax his thigh muscles while he's humping, pressure build up in his sack is directly related to the clenching of his thigh and butt muscles while he's doing the deed. Also make sure he's wearing a rubber....those things can cut down his wang sensitivity by up to 70 or 80%. Good luck

Answer 6

Firstly, get him to get you off before he enters you, that way at least you've got something out of it.
Try getting him to stop before he shoots, take time out and extend foreplay, specifically orally stimulating you, when he's calmed down a bit resume.
He could also try exercising his muscle that stops him from cumming, its the same one that stops him from peeing mid flow.
Most of all don't make a big issue out of it.
Good Luck and enjoy yourself.

Answer 7

Try this:

In general, practice and relaxation will help you deal with the problem. Some men try to distract themselves by thinking non-sexual thoughts (such as naming baseball players and records) to avoid becoming excited too fast.

Some helpful techniques include the following:

The "stop and start" method:

This technique involves sexual stimulation until the man recognizes that he is about to ejaculate. The stimulation is then removed for about thirty seconds and then may be resumed. The sequence is repeated until ejaculation is desired, the final time allowing the stimulation to continue until ejaculation occurs.

The "squeeze" method:

This technique involves sexual stimulation until the man recognizes that he is about to ejaculate. At that point, the man or his partner gently squeezes the end of the penis (where the glans meets the shaft) for several seconds, withholding further sexual stimulation for about 30 seconds, and then resuming stimulation. The sequence may be repeated by the person or couple until ejaculation is desired, the final time allowing the stimulation to continue until ejaculation occurs.

Answer 8

He is obviously a very inexperienced lover and usually this problem will be overcome with time and patience
He needs to spend a bit more time with foreplay and if he feels like orgasm is approaching develop methods of holding back
Even if this fails he needs to continue lovemaking to ensure you become fully aroused , and hopefully he will be ready again for intercourse.

Answer 9

Practice. Its pretty common that a man will eventually "train" himself to be quick in bed by masturbating quickly just to get it done. On his own time he needs to try to last longer, with a goal of holding on for as long as possible rather then getting done quickly. Also, there are other exercises that he can do such as Kegel Exercises to help gain more control.

There are condoms with a medication that will desensitize him a little. But I don't recommend using the "extended pleasure" condoms unless you really need to.

Answer 10

A LOT OF FOREPLAY!!!!! if you enjoy it-have him love you orally, keep his dog out of the picture till you are really ready yourself. Also, theirs lubes that numb the glands-I tried them when I first started having sex but I got tired of them. The more sex a young male has-the more he settles down and relaxes. Then he leaves that "zone" of "I better hurry or I'll not get it!" and enters the mature, "I want to take my time "zone".
Also you might just turn him on so much that he just really loves you. A lot more mutural foreplay till he settles would be my idea for you-my wife got a bedpost veteran-we were 28yo when we married so we were both pretty worked into the take your time-calm mode! Good luck