My friend just told me last minute today that she is having a pool party tomorrow. And when she called she was like "I was just wondering if you have a one piece bathing suit" and I was like "No, why?" and she was like "Oh, well I just thought it might be better." That really bothered me, because I wear bikinis, but not tiny string bikinis, and she's seen them. And when we went swimming at a lake with our class, she was complaining about all the girls' bikinis when they weren't even that bad. Her parents and her are very strict about that kind of stuff, and I don't even own a one piece because I don't like them. I feel weird going over there in a bikini, and I'm kind of hurt by what she said. What should I do? (They are mormans, so I think that's why they are so strict.)
2007-07-25 10:19:33 · 33 answers · asked by DunderMifflin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There's no way my mom will go buy me one for tomorrow either.
2007-07-25 10:25:59 · update #1
By the way, she has a VERY sharp edge to her and she says the kind of offensive stuff all the time.
2007-07-25 10:33:17 · update #2
Well just dont worry about it. Just go to the pool party wearing what ever you want. And i think she just said that cuz shes morman. she probably didnt try to offend you.
2007-07-25 10:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? I think maybe your friend has been told by her parents that she can have this pool party as long as everything is "appropriate" and there is nothing "suggestive" about it. And she is trying real hard to keep everything smooth with her parents and not hurt your feelings, too. The fact that she would even approach the subject should give you some idea of how difficult this is for her. Out of respect for her (and to help ease her anxiety) why don't you wear your two piece with a tee shirt over it? Or, people DO go to pool parties and not swim....you could wear a nice shorts set and sit on the apron and sip cool drinks. Get over yourself, and put yourself in your friend's shoes, and try to help her out, why don't you? Instead of getting all torqued and getting your feelings hurt. It's called empathy; it's something that has to grow. Start now.
2007-07-25 10:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try to go out and find one last minute? I know that you don't like wearing them, but, you're probably going to feel uncomfortable anyways, wearing a bikini after she made that comment. Buy a cheap one for the party, and then don't wear it anymore. That is, if you still want to go. If you are really hurt by what she has said, just say you have plans or something, and not go. She was raised differently then you, and must have different feelings on swimwear.
You're in luck, because one piece swimsuits are making a big comeback this year...so you'll probably be able to find a cute one!
2007-07-25 10:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have friends who are strcit like that too. And you have to respect there beliefs, so if it were just a one on one get together I suppose it would be best to where a swimsuit (1 peice) but I can guarantee that at a party there will always be girls wearing bikinis. So I recomeand that you buy a one peice bathing suit (hey it might come in handy one day) and bring your bikini AND one peice to the party and you use your best judgement aout which one to wear depending on what anyone else is wearing.
2007-07-25 10:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by mariam; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious your friend really enjoys your company and wants you to be there. If they are Morman and you are not, then, out of courtesy to her, I would go and buy a once piece at a local store. This will keep her from getting ribbed by her parents the entire time. Mormans are quite modest and this is their religion. You know the saying, if in Rome, do as the Romans!! Don't take this personal, this is just how things are in their household.
2007-07-25 10:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by M W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why take it so personal? remmeber, its the Ego that finds such a comment offensive.
But what she said is no different then saying "the sky is blue" whether it is or not, is just an opinion of observation.
See things this way , as an observation and you will see no harm done even when others try to harm you.
Believe me, it will work and let u see life in a view that most dont ever discover over a million lifetimes
2007-07-25 10:23:29 · answer #6 · answered by Aaron M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I think it is totally wrong for any woman NOT to wear a bikini, I think you should do as she wishes to appease her parents. Its not like shes asking you to wear a 1 piece because you're fat or something, she just wants you to because her parents think its the right thing to do, which you should respect. You shouldn't be hurt by what she asked, because it seems like a simple request.
2007-07-25 10:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear a bikini with a T-shirt over it. If it's not a skimpy one then it shouldn't be a problem. Maybe your friend is jealous because she doesn't look good in one? Just an idea.
2007-07-25 10:23:04 · answer #8 · answered by Aron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should feel hurt. She did afterall invite you to her party. if all she said was "I was just wondring if you have a one piece bathing suit" She didn't say you looked nasty or anything like that.
I'm sure her parents have put restrictions on the party; since after all it is their home; so if you want to go, get a one piece, if it offends you that much then don't go. But don't ruin her party or upset her family because of your hang up that's not theirs.
2007-07-25 10:25:04 · answer #9 · answered by Indypendence 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear your bikini and put a tank top over it or something. If other people are there with bikinis then you can take the tank off.
2007-07-25 10:22:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋