I think reading this Bible verse did it for me, and says it all
"However, each of of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must repect her husband, " Ephesian 5:23
2007-07-25 09:37:02 · 13 answers · asked by flannelpajamas1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We know that approximately 50% of heterosexual marriages fail. Clearly, something needs to be done beyond reserving marriage as a special right for heterosexuals.
Premarital counseling would not be needed and fewer marriages would fail if the participants followed one rule: Treat others as you want to be treated.
2007-07-25 13:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by Michael B - Prop. 8 Repealed! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I am confused. But I don't think that the counseling couldn't hurt BUT there are so many things after you get married that change the relationship. Like kids, a mortgage, bills, etc, those are the things that add a whole other level of stress and pressure that premarital counseling could have done nothing for.
2007-07-25 09:41:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone who almost called off her wedding due to premarital counselling from a priest. And this was before they got to the part about how a "good" catholic is supposed to dress in public and what is and is not allowed to occur in the bedroom. Yes, this priest actually felt entitled to tell a couple what sex acts could be performed by a married couple. To quote Charlie Brown, "Good grief!"
If the realities of marriage are too much to bear than a person shouldn't be getting married. Its not all about the honeymoon.
2007-07-25 10:43:06 · answer #3 · answered by Keltasia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling help both of you to understand one another better. There are a lot of unexpected things that come along with marriage and going through counseling helps you to know what to do. Don't get me wrong the Bible does say it all when it comes to everything but if you embrace both things your marriage will be stronger in the end.
2007-07-25 09:45:20 · answer #4 · answered by Jesse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Premarital courses are a great idea in fact when I did mine 18 years ago it was a group thing with 6 other couples. At the end we all chatted and I knew two of the couples from school they told me they where told they should wait before they get married. Both couples didn't wait and both couples ended their marriage within 18 months.
2007-07-25 09:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by Lou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I understand what you are asking. Most religions no longer consider wives chattel of their husbands. I would try the counseling and if it sounds like whoever is doing the counseling believes that wives should be subservient stop the counseling.
2007-07-25 09:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Premarital counseling surely wouldn't hurt. If you want to make your marriage work then why not do anything and everything you can to get it off to a good start.
2007-07-25 09:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by Cali Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what the bible verse had to do with premarital counseling, but if you want to do it, go for it.
2007-07-25 09:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by leaptad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even a good marriage needs all the help it can get. If you're getting married in a church that you've been raised in, its usually a pre-requisite. I would encourage the counseling! Good luck!
2007-07-25 09:41:19 · answer #9 · answered by sunflowergal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's that couple's decision whether to do counseling or not. Personally, I don't think it helped me and my hubby out one bit, but we didn't really take it seriously either.
I recommend a long engagement and really LEARN all there is to know about the other person.
2007-07-25 09:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋