If someone you are very fond or a family member suddenly gave you the realisation that they had told you a consistent lie for years?
2007-07-25 08:36:17 · 21 answers · asked by : 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Lefty while I agree that Elvis when young was very good looking I have to say that he was far to flat in personality for my interest. And when he got older he was not attractive.
He was always much to young lefty innit
2007-07-26 05:56:29 · update #1
wow, i think that the trust would be gone if they have lied for years, that it would be hard to understand why they did it, and why they felt they could not be honest and tell,
good question but a very hard one also, trust is always very important in family and friends or someone you are fond with :))))))))
2007-07-25 08:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This makes me really sad. It's a really sorrow making situation. My own feelings would be very hurt. But we are all flawed mrsB. And it is true some things are very hard to forgive. Some things are unforgivable. But when I think about all the things I haven't forgiven I feel the marks on my heart. And none of them do me any good.
If you are fond of someone it's because you trust them which is probably because they are quite decent most of the time. If that's the case then their lie and the trust they have broken must cause them a lot of suffering. What a horrible place to be.
2007-07-25 10:12:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it probably would. Being lied to (no matter what it is about) is a hard thing to get around. If that person was a close family member, I would make a bigger effort to work it through and incorporate the new information into my relationship with that person. But yes, I agree, it would probably mean a change of feelings but to what degree would depend on who it is and the size of the lie!
2007-07-25 08:49:55 · answer #3 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What feelings are you talking about.
At the time, when "things" were moving on their merry way, what feeling did you have then of this person.
What was that feeling
Did you like that person for who they were
Did you enjoy that persons company as a caring sharing person
This world is not that easy to live in, is it
Maybe we could give each other some credit and treat each other knowing this.
We all have pain, "love" gone ......., we all need relationships with people, all interaction and communication is relationship.
We have all lost something or someone near and dear.
Tread softly in this world.
Does it hurt you to learn to forgive.
You will be a bigger person for it.
Regrets, anger, hate, intolerance actually affects the initiator more than the person to whom it is directed.
Think about that.
You owe it to yourself to change your feelings to compassion, understanding and love.
2007-07-25 08:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by Astro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was told a big lie for years.... my dad was the liar. I don't think my feelings for him changed BUT I did lose this fear I always felt and started speaking my mind whether he liked it or not, and was honest about my anger for having being told a lie for so many years. My relationship with him wasn't great anyway but after this I felt "braver" to tell him what I thought about him or about any other issue, and I think that's good. Of course if it had been a friend or boyfriend who told the lie, I would have dumped them immediately.
2007-07-25 08:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by Lprod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay this is tough. I agree with lilredhead. It depends on how big the lie was. Like if my mom told me my name was Robert and when I turn 59 I find out it was Betty, I'm gonna be crushed! However, if mom said she ironed my socks but never really did . Well, I could live with that.
2007-07-25 08:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what the lie was about and what the reason was why they felt they had to lie. Sometimes pple lie to protect others or they are ashamed of what they did so they lie about it. When we care about pple we don't want them to dislike us or lower their opinion of us. Hear the person out and if you feel it was uncalled for then tell them that and take your time to get over it.... Good luck
2007-07-25 09:17:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes/no. I say that b/c I have been there b4. My feelings did change towards the person b/c I felt like I couldn't trust them, like I had been betrayed. At the same time the feeling of love was still there for that person. It is just really hard, and with some bigger things it takes a long time to get over.
2007-07-25 08:42:22 · answer #8 · answered by gorgeous 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont know, depends on the lie and the implications. for instance, if they told me they was a cross dresser my feelings wouldnt change, but if they told me they had a double life complete with children then yes. it really does depend on the lie and the reason they felt compelled to lie and keep it up.
2007-07-25 08:41:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. I found out my ex wife had been living a lie for 6 years. Hence the ex part of ex wife.
2007-07-25 08:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋