Hi everyone! My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years now, and are planning on getting married next year. I am 22 and he is 24. I am ready to have a baby and start our family now! We have talked about having kids before. How can I reassure him that it is a perfect time for us to start the family?
2007-07-25 08:16:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
On paper. Sit down with him and together write out the pros and cons of starting a family now verses waiting. Then, together, come up with a timeframe and plan.
2007-07-25 08:20:44 · answer #1 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stefie,
Congratulations on your engagement.
While you are ready to have a baby, you really should listen to your bf's wishes too. Perhaps he has legitimate reasons for holding off on a baby. Perhaps he doesn't feel financially ready to support a baby. Perhaps he just wants to spend some time with you as a newlywed with no children for a couple of years. Regardless of the answer, you MUST respect his needs as well as your own. When you start putting your partner 1st, he'll start putting you 1st. You can't reassure him of anything. That is like trying to change who he is. Address his issues and have him address yours. Set a timetable, say within 5 years, to start your family. Too many young marrieds are eager to have children, usually because they see their friends married with children. Babies and children are not like pets who can fend for themselves.
You and your husband need to spend time around babies and children and see how ready you are to meet their needs - 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. When they are thirsty, hungry, wet, sick, tired, bored, etc. Once you have a baby, you won't get any time off because you are sick or tired or have to work. That baby will HAVE to come first.
Enjoy your time together as a married couple first. Once you do that, the baby time will come along naturally.
Good Luck and Congratulations!
2007-07-25 08:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by palmyrafan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't convince him but I would just be honest. Tell him you want a baby and you will not be using contraception. Then it is his place to be responsible. Find out when he will be ready to have a family. If he can't convince you he will def be ready one day you are marrying the wrong man!
2007-07-25 08:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by debbie939828 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having children shouldn't be something you have to "convince" someone to do, especially if he's not ready. Maybe it's important to him that you are married first- in which case, would he move up the wedding date so you can have the baby you want so badly.
2007-07-25 08:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by terasa425 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't convince him. He will decide it on his own. You don't want any regrets.
2007-07-25 08:20:06 · answer #5 · answered by Kerrigan Z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately you both have to agree on this one, you can express your wish but its really up to him, im sure he'll be fine
2007-07-25 08:20:08 · answer #6 · answered by Emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to convince him, you shouldnt
2007-07-25 09:31:49 · answer #7 · answered by the fliest of them all 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋