I met Melissa 3 years ago. We had an instant connection. We used to sit and talk for hours, we did everything together. We had issues like everyone else, we were divorced, 2 kids each, ex-spouses, money,etc. As time went by, I got frustrated with the problems and started talking to another Woman online, and I met her for dinner. After me & Melissa got back together, the other woman and I started talking again (months later). Melissa and I broke up a year later for about 2 weeks and I went out with the other lady again for spite. (Nothing ever happened between us) Melissa is a wonderful person and I kept pushing her away until she left. I have tried to get her back. I do love her so much. I realize now how much I have hurt her because, now its my turn to hurt. This isn't so much a question as it is a thought, "Why are we so stupid and hurt the ones we love?" If you find someone you love, do whatever you can to show them, don't be stupid and hurtful to them. Just love them!
2007-07-25 08:02:35 · 14 answers · asked by The Wižard 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We tend to push people away when we're not ready (for whatever reason) to accept them and the love they are trying to give. Sometimes we're just not at a point in our lives when we can be 100% to everyone and everything, so we create distance in order to give ourselves space to breathe and collect ourselves. It's life. It sucks, but it's life.
2007-07-25 08:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by tooblessed2doubt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats what happened between me and the guy i love.
he did the exact same thing you did..
but guess what?
dont worry..
if you are true soulmates, youll know it..
your love for each other transcends most other things.
i have not had anyone in my mind and heart ever since i fell in love with him.. even though he did everything - every mean and way to hurt me..
so, i cant forget him, but that period made me a very strong woman.. i let him go literally because i couldnt do anything about it..
and from there he came back to me.
it's working out, but slowly.. and he's the love of my life.. i will spend a long time forgiving him but the love only gets deeper because he does things he never once did to show his love for me.
he once was hard up for freedom.. i didnt ask alot from him but he loved the swinging single life.. out with friends.. everyone but me.
now he waits for me everyday without fail.. long hours without complaint.. what can i say?
it gets better..
now i can turn the tables...
but i try not to hurt him.. but if i dont, he gets complacent and starts being like he used to.
but he's got a thinking head.. i understand he's not mature enough to commit but he's slowly coming round to it and i will wait.
my message is..
.. hurting the ones we love is teaching both of you a VERY valuable lesson. you just have to learn the lesson.
its part of growing up.. and we usually emerge happier, wiser and more loving than before. it's a blessing in disguise mate!
dont be disheartened..
one day you willmeet at a new level where all the hurt will vanish. you just gtta work on it and it'll be worth it and fabulous!
2007-07-25 08:17:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the only growth we really ever go through involves pain. If it hurts bad enough, you'll learn from it and do something different in the future.
Not just you - all of us.
On the upside, the people that do learn and grow are great to have in our lives.
It's the one that think they can do no wrong and blame everyone else that are disasters waiting to happen.
2007-07-25 08:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by Mytmel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, people still think the grass is greener, that is why. Plus you hurt the ones you love thinking that they will always be there for you. Unfortunately, people can only take so much before they give up fo good.
Learn from your mistakes and good luck in the future!
2007-07-25 08:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by Big Mama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not braggin but I have only hurt the ones' I have loved when they had it coming to them (revenge) I think peep hurt the ones they love because subconsciously they think this person is going to always be there or going to always forgive them. There is not enough conscious thinking going on before peep do something..no one thinks of the consequences...I ALWAYS think things out...its my gift and my curse (some would say) But I am who I am and wouldnt be anyway or anyone else. G'luck!
2007-07-25 08:13:18 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what you got, till it's gone! Such a true statement. I lost someone that I loved very much. Now I will never be able to tell them how I really felt. I agree with you, hold onto them, tell them how you feel!! You never know what could happen.
2007-07-25 08:14:18 · answer #6 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you learned the hard way... good luck to you... and if it was meant to be with you and Melissa it will be again... and don't be so dumb this time... love them like you'll lose them tomorrow (that's my motto)
2007-07-25 08:09:03 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats rite. We dont no y we hurt the ones we love. But, if u truly belong together, itll work out.
2007-07-25 08:09:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please just remember this moment and don't ever let it happen again if you ever get her back or someone else comes along that you fall in love with. You remember this moment and you'll never be lonely again.
2007-07-25 08:18:44 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you learned this lesson too late but next time around you'll be wiser. Good luck to you :)
2007-07-25 08:06:23 · answer #10 · answered by i_b_winkn_at_u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋