d me that if her date cancels, could I go? I asked her what time the reception was because I have to get up very early on Sun. am to help my boyfriend @work. She told me it started @ 6 so I told her I would go only if we could stay for 2 hrs. She said that was fine. Then she called me like a week after that & tells me everything is starting @ 3 so she will pick me up @ 2. I reminded her that I have a prior engagement on the other side of town,& I can't rush through it.Then she says the reception is still @ 6, I reminded her that she invited me to the reception not the wedding.Now she tells me that her car brokedown & she wants me to catch the bus to her house & catch a ride w/ her family. I told her I was sorry I couldn't go w/ her to the reception & now she is mad. She wanted me to cancel my whole day & night for a wedding of some1 I don't even know. My noon apointment is very important & I can't cancel it she doesn't understand that. Or my devotion to helping my boy friend @ work.
2007-07-25 07:55:55 · 9 answers · asked by Miss 6 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
meeeeeeeee2681,
Its cool that you think I am wrong. But let me just tell you this, I get up every Sun. morning at 5, to help my boyfriend with his business, Sunday's are his busiest days & I am the only person who is willing to help him. I don't have a car, I will be on the otherside of town for most of the day. Traveling by bus on Saturday is slow! I wouldn't have any time to get dressed up for the recieption. I would be at the mercy of someone else to get me home and they may want to stay for more then 2 hours. I have a commitment to my boyfriend on Sunday mornings. Do you still think I am wrong?
2007-07-27 02:34:24 · update #1
Tell her to get over it. It's not your fault she didn't have a date and she was changing the times on you. If she doesn't get over something as little as that then dump her as a friend.
2007-07-25 07:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by I'm Just A Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you still go to the reception? If I was in your situation, I would tell her that I promised her I would go to the reception and that is all I can do. I would tell her that I will meet her at the reception. I would also point out that most of the time, the reception is where everyone gets together and has a good time, I can understand her feeling awkward being at it without a friend but the wedding is not as awkward to be alone at. Since you promised you would be there, I would go, whether she is angry or not. If you show up and she is still angry you can always leave but that way you show her that you are a friend and that you keep your promises.
2007-07-25 15:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by Denise P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a tricky situation and I can understand that it sounds more like a headache than anything else, but if you want to have good friendships and friends that will walk on hot coals for you when you are in need, then you need to do the same for her. She might be asking alot but if you were a true friend you would have gone especially since you gave your word. I would have said that I will be there at 6 because that is the time you told me, but I still would have gone. It is always a good thing to keep your word. Since you didn't go, if I were you I would def try to find a way to make it up to her.. in my opinion you are the one that is wrong.
2007-07-25 15:03:51 · answer #3 · answered by meeeeeeeee2681 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes crazy and not very reliable-then she wonders why you arent going with her!
you made a commitment-honor your commitment. if you had told her that you would be there for her first she would have a real problem if you dumped her.
if she is any kind of a friend she will understand
email her the link to this post
if she wants to make up great-if not she is no friend!
i hope this helps
2007-07-25 15:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by msijg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is acting childish. You are not wrong. Why does she need you at the reception if her family is there? Don't give it a second thought.
2007-07-25 15:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by rcButterfly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are fine. She invited you to something and you declined. There's nothing wrong with that. Just give her some room. She'll get over it.
2007-07-25 14:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by leaptad 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You gave her plenty of warning. You are right to say "NO".
If she does not get over it, she is not a friend. She was just using you to make herself feel/look good.
2007-07-25 15:05:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry it was more than likely spare of the minuite. she will soon realise that it wasn't your fault.
2007-07-25 15:03:42 · answer #8 · answered by charlotte 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-07-25 14:58:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋