for the past 4 years i've been battling cutting and eating disorders. these habits usually come back when i'm stressed. i'm 13 and my boyfriend has been pressuring me to have sex. i haven't eaten in 4 days and i don't know what to do. any advice??
2007-07-25 07:54:53 · 4 answers · asked by funfunbee00 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm really sorry that you're feeling so bad and I hope you're OK. You need to tell your parents or another adult right away, it's really dangerous to your health to not have eaten in so long and you might collapse if you don't get help soon.
About your boyfriend, if you don't feel ready, don't do it. If he's pressuring you, it's likely that all he really wants is sex and is just taking advantage of you. I know that could be hard to believe if you really like him, but you should never do something like that if you aren't sure because you will DEFINITELY regret it later.
About the cutting, please stop! It's not going to make you feel better to hurt yourself and if you're feeling bad there are a lot of much more constructive things you can do to feel better. If you need to talk to someone but you don't know anyone who you trust very much or you are just embarrassed, you can call 1-800-784-2433 (the National Hopeline) at any time to talk to someone.
Try and calm down and just read a book, playing an instrument, or listen to some uplifting music if you need to get rid of some stress if that will help with the eating disorder.
2007-07-25 08:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by Judy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i too have struggles with an eating disorder and my close family members were cutters. It's important to know that when you don't eat, you're trying to self medicate and that works only temporarily. I think your boyfriend should know better than to treat you that way and he should lay off a little. If you see a counselor i would be sure to go to them and ask for more personal advice as it is they know your situation better than i. You need to eat because even if you ate 1500 calories a day and did nothing at all..... you wouldn't gain ANY weight!! Its like a total bonus and that was something i had to really realize and learn. Your body deserves to be fed and kept comfortable. how else are you going to make it through the tough things i know you must be dealing with? I know my answer or anyone else's won't make it any easier for you to change your habits. But i also know that it doesn't hurt every time you hear someone say that you deserve to live freely, healthily and happily. There's only one way to have those things; and that is to try. Everyone has to, and it's really hard sometimes, but hey, that's what life's all about. - Hope this helps some...
2007-07-25 15:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by Echo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are your parents aware of your eating disorders and cutting? You are much too young to be battling these things on your own. And I might add, too young to have sex. I think your parents should see that you get some help from a therapist, psychologist or counselor. You can't solve your own problems at this point. You're basically still a kid who is under extreme stress. If you can't talk to your parents, then perhaps another relative, your doctor, or your clergyman at church. Please get some help, dear. Good luck!
2007-07-25 15:03:45 · answer #3 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People in your life should lift you up, not drag you down. This "boyfriend" sounds like the latter, its time to concentrate on yourself!
Get rid of the boyfriend and work on your issues with a counselor.
Talk to your parents or an adult you trust, this is not a young adult issue, its an adult issue that needs to be dealt with by you and the adults in your life.
Please ask for help, and make yourself and getting well, your number one priority!
Good Luck
2007-07-25 15:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋