Is honor worth 3,000 miles away from home?

Question

I'm going to be a college freshman next year, and choosing the right place to go has been the hardest decision in my life. I have recieved a full four-year scholarship to Wellesley College, a great school. It would be an honor to attend such a college. However, I live 3,000 miles from Massachusetts, which means I will live 3,000 miles from everything I know and trust. I don't have a single family member in Mass and I don't know a single soul. Should I go to Wellesley because it is a great school, or should I go to college with my twin sister (who I am very, very close to) and stay close to home where long distance bills won't exist?

Answer 1

You don't say where your sister is going. If it is Stanford or Berkeley -- then stay with her.

But it sounds like you would be going to a much better school. This could be a really positive thing for you. You will meet lots of people at Wellesley -- so don't worry about friends. The Boston area is an incredible place to go to college. Being away from family will make you grow up -- and that is a big part of college. Being away from your sister could be tough -- but could also bring you closer.

I'd go to Wellesley if I were you.

Answer 2

Congratulations on being awarded a scholarship to such a prestigious school. I think that you should give Wellesley a chance. It is a great opportunity, and passing it up may cause some regrets later in life. I went to a college closer to home because of my fear of moving far away, and I wonder what my life would be like if I had taken the chance and moved away. If you go to Wellesley, and it turns out that you can't handle being away from home and family, you can always transfer closer to home. If you do go, I'm sure you will make friends quickly, and others will be in the same position you are, and will be looking for friends. These may be some of the best friends you may ever make. Talk to you sister, and see what she thinks about it. Being so close, she may give you the best advice. Long distance bills are a small price to pay for such an opportunity. Good luck with your decision.

"The only things in life that you regret are the risks that you don't take".

Answer 3

First of all - Congratulations! Wellesley is a great school and you must be extremely proud to have been offered the opportunity to attend such an exceptional school. I am actually from that area originally and have moved away from home myself. I will tell you that the area (as well as being so close to Boston schools, etc.) is ideal for meeting new people. I would suggest giving it a try. Maybe go for a year with a plan to leave if things are not what you hoped or, it's just too hard away from your family. Most cell phone companies offer free long distance and even the local phone providers are catching on and offering same. I think that this is quite an opportunity for you and you should give it a chance. Best of luck in your decision.

Answer 4

I think you should go to Wellesley. College is all about getting new experiences and discovering your true self, as corny and cliche as that sounds. I made a tough decision to go to college on the West Coast, 1,800 miles from home, and I'm really, really glad I did. Staying near home is obviously more comfortable and secure-feeling, but I'd argue that's actually a bad thing. Leaving is an opportunity to challenge yourself and get a fresh start. Also, Wellesley is a fantastic school, and unless you can get an equal education at home, it's worth it.

Answer 5

You must be a very smart girl to have a full scholarship to Wellesley! Congratulations!
You'll meet people and make new friends.And your twin will have a great place to come and visit on school breaks.As hard as it will be to leave the security of family,think of it as an adventure.At least give it a try.You can always go home if you really don't like it.A free education is a hard thing to pass up!

Answer 6

A full scholorship is not something to pass up without a great deal of thought.

You will meet new people and possibly make new friendships and even if not good friends there may be people prepared to help you out if needed.

If you , parents and sister are on the internet it is now very easy to stay in touch. There are even cell phone plans that might be cheap enough , especially if you are saving on tuition and stuff with the scholarship.

Personally, for my daughter I would say "go for it" , you will leave home eventually to start your own life , so you might start now in a controlled environment. Thats assuming you will live on-campus with maybe a meal-plan at the cafeteria and that sort of thing.

Answer 7

Go to Wellesley or you will regret it later. You should be very proud of a full scholarship.

Answer 8

You sound very unsure, which is why i would say, stay close to home, but then again, you might like being away. but like i said before, you sound unsure. You can take the scholarship, and go miles away, but u might get homesick, and miss ur twin....which could affect your work as well as your social college life. It's a really tough decision to make.

Answer 9

I have a situation similar to yours, i was accepted to Bryn Mawr but i don't know a single soul on the east coast. I have chosen to go there instead of UC Berkeley which is only twenty minutes from home for me. I think you should go not only for the honor but for the experience and change in atmosphere think of it as an adventure. But ultimately the decision is yours.

Answer 10

It depends on where your sister is going, but I really think you should branch out and go to Wellesley.