I am very interested in a man that recently filed for divorce & has a 9 month old baby. I too a single mother of a one year old, w/ no ties to the father. We have a great deal in common. He has informed me that he is going through a lot right now & is very interested in me but is not ready to date yet. He requests that we take it really slow. I respect & understand this because it has taken me 2 years, up until now, before I am even considered dating again. This could be a long, painful process for him. I want to give him the space he needs to heal but dont want to miss out on the possibility of having something in the future. We are in different places in terms of being ready & capable of dating. I also know that if we jumped into something right away it could complicate his divorce, which I don't want to do, and I could end up being a rebound, which my heart can not take. How should I pursue this while respecting his wishes & without rushing it?
2007-07-25 06:56:02 · 8 answers · asked by Abby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should not pursue it . You should do what he asked and take it really slow. If he said he is not ready to date yet , take his word on it. You said you don't want to be a rebound and that the two of you are in different places in terms of being ready to and capable to date so you have given enough reasons here that you should not even attempt a relationship with this man right now.
2007-07-25 07:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by Twinkle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you see is not what you get as once he's out from all the drama he will change.After 2 yrs an go slow .Open your eyes an go on as there to much gap between you & him.Fine someone that single & free. If he wants to be with you let him come to you.He's not interested at this time Sorry outsider look in??
2007-07-25 07:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you leave this man alone? Perhaps him and his wife can settle their differences. He has a 9 month old baby. Get out of the way and let him work on his marriage. He told you he's not ready to date; so leave him alone.
2007-07-25 07:13:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
With much time, rush nothing! Be friends for now maybe discrete lovers but nothing more besides it will be better once he is dirvorce it will mean more and you won't be making him commit adultery, don't you think? Things will be much easier then! Also Timing is everything! If it is ment to be it will be!
2007-07-25 07:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the dust settle before you proceed! Let him finish everything before going out
2007-07-25 06:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by Buffet4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away! You should be focusing on your baby right now, not crushing on some new guy.
2007-07-25 07:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't.
He needs friendship and support, and will want to wash his hands of all that emotion when it is all finally over.
2007-07-25 07:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by ButSiriuslyFolks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say be only his friend... when the dust settles you might see a different person...
2007-07-25 07:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by happygolcky75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋