Why are people so unwilling to help a person in trouble,either depression or some?

Question

other paticular rut?

Answer 1

It takes a special kind of personality to be able to assist others in dealing with very emotional issues. Many do not understand their own emotions, let alone the emotions of others. It is not that they do not care to help, it is simply that they do not know who to go about it. Also, it is very easy to assume that whenever someone is "in a rut", it has something to do with money, and people do not want to be asked. I'm not saying that is always the case, it is human nature to assume such things. Finally, it is also human nature to think that is they are around those who have negativity about them, it would affect them somehow, and expose them to the same vulnerabilities that the other person is experiencing. I hope this explanation helps.

Answer 2

while I don't think that's necessarily true, i find that most people are very wrapped up in their own lives, and the things they have to do to keep themselves out of ruts and depression. Most people are tremendously busy these days and make themselves busier with the strangest things.

myself fighting a rut and a touch of depression, I have found the greatest friendship and assistance in the kind faces that are my most recent acquaintances. The greatest comfort, however, has come from those who know me best and the longest-though their lives are so hectic that their ability to lend a hand during this rough patch is limited.

I say, seek professional guidance to help you work over this rough spot in life and only lean on folks to their ability of being leaned on. Remember, you may need to be the leaning post sometime in the future and may not have the energy or time to do as much as you would like either...

good luck, and know you are not alone....

Answer 3

Depends on the situation. I am always willing to help, UNLESS the situation is that of my friend's - this girl is in a huge rut because she's been desperately dating a guy for two years, who won't even call her his girlfriend. He's admitted a few times that he may just not be into her enough to have an exclusive relationship with her. She's made an attempt to break it off with him probably 5 times. After the third time, I stopped wasting my time trying to help. The rut she's in is her LIFE. I'm done wasting my time trying to help someone who is too weak to follow through. One week she's depressed and committed to getting this guy out of her life, the next she's flaking on doing things with friends to be with him, and mad at us because we can't "just be supportive" of her decision. This goes on over and over and over again.

Basically if you become known as the boy/girl who cried wolf, people will stop trying to help you, because no one can help you other than yourself.

Some people need help and can benefit from it. Others are addicts of some sort and no matter how much you try and help them, they fall back in to the same pattern.

Answer 4

I think that others are right, people are too self-absorbed and uncaring. But I have also found that people care but do not know how to deal with situations, so they simply don't answer or try to help. Yes, something can be overwhelming, but listening doesn't cost anything; it can help, and often, people just want to talk and are not expecting someone to have all the answers.

One other bit: people may feel afraid of their own failings and mortality, and don't want to think about it. When I talk about updating my will, I get, "You're too young", etc. It makes them aware of death itself. Same with this, they're afraid of facing their own problems.

Answer 5

Many won't, but few will. Help does come when you realy need it. You may not really need it right now. I don't want to minimize your pain but in my life I had loads of badtimes somehow help found me and sometimes when I needed help more trouble found me. For no the best thing for you isto put on a happy face and fake it till it's over. This too will pass (repeat that 5 times) This too will pass.

And keep your wits about you, some men prey on girls who realy need help.

Answer 6

Most people will come to the aid of others and try to help them. But some folks just don't want to get involved. It all depends on how altruistic a person is. Altruism means a love of mankind. You either have it, or you don't.

Answer 7

Self absorbtion. If we stop to help someone else then they arent listening to us. When I was at my most depressed I felt like no one cared so why live. Luckily I was made aware of this-
WHat if I cared? What if I helped someone else, listened just like I wanted someone to listen to me. I volunteered to talk to suicidal youths. Doing exactly what I wished someone would do for me. When we are depressed we are just as self absorbed as the rest. Helping others didn't cure my depression but it did make me feel like ditching the self absorbed mates I had. Finding ppl that know how to listen and give while I learned to listen and give also, helped me massively.
Find new ppl.

Answer 8

Unfortunately some people are far too self absorbed to have time for anyone who is going through a hard time, its the way of the world, sadly.

Answer 9

There could be a lot of reasons. For one, they may think their contributions won't be of any help. Also, they may have learned certain stereotypes against people under these psychological circumstances, for which the answerers may ignore them.

I know, it's sad :(

Answer 10

I could be they don't feel competent in helping that person. It also could be that person isn't important enough to them to invest the time and effort required. Or, it may be they just too busy to identify with anyone other than themselves.