Help!!!!!...Pregnancy and My MOM!!!!?

Question

Hi, I've been spotting for about 9 days now and with red spots. I went to the ER yesterday and they saw my HCG on 771 when on Saturday was at 473. They told me that eventhough I was bleeding if the hgc keep rising well there's nothing to be concern by. She told me to rest, but how can I rest when I'm a very active 23 year old girl. So I told the Doctor that I thought that doubling meant literally 473*2. And she said no that's an average. Now my point is I'm not cramping just spotting and I use the overnight pads. I don't know what else to do. My mom doesn't want me anymore(ok I understand I'm 23 and old but I look like a 15 year old) the point is she's wishing me to loose the baby like I lost my first. But my first was different I was cramping from the time to conception until I push it out cause in reality it never develop it was an empty sac.

I called my gyno and he told me that I should rest and avoid sex and stay calm.

I lost my first 3 months ago. Has any women who gone through

miscarried had gotten pregnant right away and experience this things, I'm experiencing??

In two days I will pass my deadline of when I miscarried last time, and I'm scared!!!

The baby father loves me but he kind of not getting involve. I guess he will get involve when I give birth or carry on with the pregnancy. I'm almost everyday with him. He tells me all the time things like becareful when driving also like hey don't walk to fast, or don't these. Cause he knows what we went through with the first pregnancy. Yes I'm living with my mother, I will love to live with my bf but he works and I don't and he wants me to look for a job so we can live in a studio apartment. I was working but long story.

Answer 1

i had a miscarriage and got pregnant right after and i had alot of cramping with the 2nd time and i just new i was about to have another m/c but i now have a son who is about to turn 2. so all can still be ok!!! sorry about your mom. some people can be so inconsiderate. oh i did also have bleeding that was really lite.

Answer 2

Why would your mom wish that? That is absolutely horrible!!!

Yes I've been through what you are going through I had a miscarriage with my first child and that made me absolutely horrified when I got pregnant again. Just relax and stay in the bed/couch, don't do very much more than go to the bathroom and get some food.
Spotting is normal in the early stages of pregnancy but if it gets any worse do not hesitate to head to the hospital again.
I wish you the best of luck with this and hope that you and your mother can get some type of counseling for your relationship and that you work out whatever issues you all have with each other.

Answer 3

I have been through 3 miscarriages and am now 24 weeks. I know what you are going thru. the waiting, worrying and on top of that you have other stress. Remember what the doctor told you-relax. Stress is bad for pregnancy!! Rest is also a good thing too. Have you been checked for your hCG levels again? they should be checked once every other day or once a week. some doctors are different. Are you living with your mom? why does she not want you to have this baby? Try talking to her about it, maybe she just thinks you aren't ready for a child.

Answer 4

That's a stressful situation that you're in. I can't really say that your mom would wish for you to lose your baby - she just wants you to have an easier life than she probably has. I was in a similar situation as you and my mom was so negative the whole preganancy but when my daughter was born - she was in love with her and has been ever since.

As far as getting pregnant right after a miscarrage, I don't think the odds are in your favor, especially if you cannot discipline yourself enough to follow the Drs orders.

If - by chance you do not carry this pregnancy to term, consider it as a bitter-sweet opportunity to improve your life. Don't be in such a rush to make your life harder than it needs to be. I have 4 kids. Had by 2nd at 22 and 4th at 26, I'm in my 30s now. I lost out on many great opportunities because of my choices. Now - I wouldn't change having my kids for the world, but I tell mine all the time, don't be in such a rush to grow up, enjoy your youth, explore every dream. We don't have it as bad as most and we're happy and stable but it was not an easy road.

God only knows what's in store for you but you have know what you want for yourself too. Don't be upset with your mom, she's just trying to protect you from pain and struggle. She also wants to protect herself which is why you feel she doesn't want you. If, from the sounds of it, you will continue to be immature and potentially self-destructive, then she's just guarding her heart.

Answer 5

I know how scary it can be. Call the doctor and ask him to put you an prometrium. It is progesterone replacement. I had a miscarriage last august. I got pregnant again this april. My first visit this time he checked my progesterone levels and they were low. He put me on prometrium. I am now 15 weeks pregnant. If you don't know what pregesterone is it keeps your lining from sheding. Not enough and your lining will shed. Just call the office and ask. It doesn't hurt to ask. My miscarriage last year nothing ever developed and I lost the baby at 6 1/2 weeks. Good Luck. ANd put it in God's hands!!

Answer 6

Relax and rest. Active 23 year-old or not, you need to think of your baby and do what is best for it. Listen to your doctors. Do you live with your mother or something? Is the father in the picture? Your story has a lot of holes but, since you are 23 and pregnant you need to grow up and do what is best for the baby!!!

Answer 7

If your mom isn't thrilled about this, can you really blame her? You're not married, you live with her, you're not financially stable...and it just doesn't make any sense that you would have tried to get pregnant in the first place when you're in the situation you are. She probably knows that most likely this will become her responsiblilty now, especially since you live with her. If your boyfriend decides he doesn't want to be with you, who's going to take care of you and your baby???? That's right...your mother! So, I can see why she wouldn't be happy...you've just made a selfish decision and now she will be the one to pay for it.

Just do what your dr. said to do...take it easy. If you do miscarry...take it as the opportunity to make yourself financially stable before trying to get prego again. Don't you want to make a good life for your child? It's not smart to try to bring a baby into the world when you can't pay for anything yourself.

Answer 8

Try to relax, stressing will only make you feel worse. Listen to your dr, bleeding in early pregnancy is common, it happen to me with all my pregnancies. Concieving after a loss is nerve wracking, you lie in wait for something to go wrong. But if the hormones are rising its a good thing!!!

As for your mom, cut her off. She may come around later in the pregnancy, but you don;t need her negtivity. Do you live at home? IS the babies father involved?

Answer 9

I would listen to your doctor. Rest, no sex, and let people help you. At least until you stop spotting. I spotted all throughout my 1st pregnancy, and everything was fine. I'm pregnant now and have been bleeding off and on, and I am on bedrest. It's the best thing as hard as it is. Just try to keep your mind off of it. Read books, watch tv, just try to keep your mind off of it. Try not to worry about your mom. It's your baby, not hers. Elevate your feet, and drink TONS of water. Good luck to you! :)

Answer 10

damn im sorry that your mom is so cold hearted. That is really bad thing to say to anyone. I understand that u are active...but if u wanna safe this baby, then just stay home. Put urself on bedrest for a while.