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2007-07-25 03:05:14 · 6 answers · asked by Doo.ri 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i dont think that going out and deliberately hurting people would make you near and dear to their hearts.....but it does seem like the people you tend to be closest to are the ones that have gone through painful events with you. Some of my closest friends are those with whom i've either mended a rift, experienced something awful with or shared something very painful with. I think tragedy does have the capacity to bring people closer together, but i dont think it is a pre-requisite for a close bond.
2007-07-25 03:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by tasha w 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily! If the hurt happens in the natural course of spontaneous interactions, and brings out the great quality of forgiveness, yes, it will result in special emphasis to the great advantage of the relationship: but, if the hurt is stage-managed, with deliberate intention of experimenting, the experiment may not work, and may result in counterproductive outcome! So, one has to be careful in generalising and proceeding on assumptions on this premise! Very sensitive persons may take the hurt seriously and react accordingly, and the virtue of forgiveness may get smothered! Very slippery grounds!
2007-07-25 10:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by swanjarvi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that depends on the person. You can hurt them a little by making them jealous or teasing them. For example, turn down an invitation once to their house to go to another friend's house. But act very sincerely sorry you couldn't go. This will show that you have other friends, and don't depend solely on the 1st friend. That means they can't use your dependence to their advantage. In conclusion, hurt a little. Hope I helped!
2007-07-25 10:12:12 · answer #3 · answered by psycho tree frog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I met my gf two years and a half ago, and used to be my bestfriend, and then I realized I have feelings for her. I told her that staight forward and she turned out to have feelings for me too. And now after two years of a Great friendship and an Awesome relationship, I don't remember hurting her at all. Well, only once last week (the first and the last time), and now we're okay again :)
2007-07-25 10:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by I.K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would damaging a relationship with someone you care about going to make that relationship more "special?" I guess if you think that "special" is the same thing as "damaged"...? I wouldn't do that on purpose (hurt someone you care about) if I were you. Adversity can sometimes (but not always) make a relationship stronger...but it really does depend on what the adversity is, and how it came about. If you hurt someone on purpose, they aren't going to be as likely to forgive you, and therefore, it's not going to strengthen your relationship...it will weaken it. Perhaps even destroy it. If you want "special", show that person that you care, in ways that he/she will be receptive to. Do fun things together...support each other...laugh together!
2007-07-25 10:14:45 · answer #5 · answered by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a sense it does. If your perfect friends, never got in a fight, never had an argument, then that leaves you very weak if you to get into a big fight. Like for example, if you guys have been friends for years without a fight, and got into a really big fight, then it would be very hard to get through, or you may not get through at all because you are not used to being in fights at all. but its different if you just pick a fight for no reason, thats not right
2007-07-25 10:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋