What do you do when you wake up and realize you you have wasted your life?

Question

That you have no one and nothing, you work a mindless job that has no meaning, you have no great love, all your friends are gone and have moved on to bigger and better things, married, babies, careers. You on the other hand have tried to help people but have done far more harm. And you just don't care what happens.

What do you do then.

Answer 1

Not everyone who chased the zebra caught it, but he who caught it chased it.
-African proverb.

if you want something chase after it,dont sit there waiting for it,if you hate your job change it,if you want love - love,if you want friends make them.You are not blind deaf or dumb? even people who are blind,deaf,crippled have managed to make there lives worthwhile.

Answer 2

The only thing that worked for me was taking accountibility for where I play a role in my life. I know what you mean. I have (and still am) struggling with the same issues you are. You have You. God, or whoever/whatever is out there had a purpose for you when they put you on this Earth. You have to find it. I know, I'm still searching for mine. The good thing is that I know plenty of things I don't want to do, as well as the type of person that I don't want to be. I'm trying to work from there, to find the person I WANT to be and WHAT I want to do. I have learned that no matter how much it sux, I have to take the innitiative to move forward, no matter who I have or don't have. Your job feels mindless because you need to find what you are meant to do. Meditate, pray, write it down. Do some soul searching. You can do it. I'm back to waitressing (it sux) so that I can put myself thru nursing school. I turn 32 on Saturday!! You haven't wasted your life because it is not over yet!!! Hang in there! And feel free to email. I know that when I am communicating with other late-bloomers in my same boat, I feel alot better! Good Luck, and hang in there :)

Answer 3

the great thing about life and being human, is that you can reinvent yourself all the time, you an say today is a new day wereI can find something that makes me happy and fulfills me and set out to do it. That the great part of life. Once you start taking care of how you feel inside ie: more fulfilled you will start attracting people to you. Friends, Loves, relationships,opportunity and money. Make today the start for you. Good Luck

Answer 4

Then you make the rest of your life meaningful. If that job is the only job you can find, then find meaning in that job. You should be your great love (not selfish, but loveingly). When you change your attitude & outlook on life and find meaning in things you do, then you'll attract new friends & relationships. Do for others without expecting things in return & you'll surely gain new meaning in your life. Don't harm anyone and start caring. It all begins with you. Good luck. 2D

Answer 5

Start a new life in a significant way. An old saying that you "have to loose yourself to find yourself" really can work. Get involved in something significant and something you can be a little obsessive about, i.e. loose yourself in something. The easiest way is to get involved in a big way in something that helps others... something like "habitat for humanity". Church work is good, or something that helps youth. Something like Big Brother, or Boys and Girls clubs. But you have to be really involved for this to work. Good works is really a self help thing. Good luck.

Answer 6

Realize that you may be lucky to wake up again and start over. All of us feel like we've wasted our lives, successful or not. Break a smile and if someone responds than it isn't a wasted life. Build on that should you / we / us be lucky to wake up and start again.

Answer 7

Everyone has been there, I have, i feel like that sometimes. You have to shake it off and get busy. You have too much time and you are thinking too much. Get a hobby take some classes and put yourself out there.
Stop trying to help people, and help yourself. You cannot change anyone, only yourself.

Answer 8

Stop wasting your life. Find out what you want out of it and then go after it. You want a meaningful job, find one that suits you better. If that's not possible, volunteer at a local homeless shelter or food pantry. Help those who need help and THERE will be the first bit of meaning in your life.

Second, socialize. Get out, meet people. Force yourself to be inviting to those who may find you to be a good friend. It's hard at first, but you can do it. I used to be extremely shy and never knew what to say to anyone. Now, I say whatever is on my mind and who cares what anyone else thinks. I'm happier being myself and letting my personality out instead of repressing it just to fit in. Might gain some enemies, but it makes for a lot of really decent friends too. ;)

If you miss your old friends, reconnect. It can be done. Choose the one you miss most and invite that person out to lunch for a quick get together. Talk to them. Find out about their life and see how it goes. If it goes well, make other plans to have another get together or meet their families or something like that. You never know who you might meet through them that could make a big difference in your life.

Stop helping people just because they ask for it. Some people will use you like that, but never return the favor. If they pretend to be your friend just to do this, then they aren't all that needy. They're just coming to you because you're a soft touch. Don't let them use you like that. It's fine and good to help those that REALLY need it, but it is hard to know who those people are. Before you agree to help anyone, step back and think about it a bit first, analyze the situation and look at it as objectively as you can from as many angles as possible. Is this person wearing expensive jewelry? Do they have family that can help them? Do they seem desperate for real, or do you detect a hint of fakeness going on? If you think they're being unreal, then don't help. You can bow out of it gracefully most times, but basically, find a reason that they can't refute on why you can't help.

However, if it is a truly a person in need of help, then help them if you can and expect nothing in return. Don't harm your life to do it, but help those you can with no thought of getting anything back. What comes of it isn't your problem or concern. You're just doing what you were asked. What they did with your help is entirely up to them. Just stop offering help without being asked. Sometimes you don't know all of the important details and could be setting yourself up for a lot of trouble if you get into something without knowing all of that.

Another thing you can do is find a hobby or sport you like and get involved in it. Maybe you could coach a baseball team? Be a Big Brother mentor? Read stories to sick kids at the hospital? Write a book? Write a song?

The point is, there are a ton of things you can do to add meaning and importance to your life. Find something that suits you and your lifestyle and then go after it. You will meet all kinds of people in day to day activity and some of them will have a big impact on your life as well as give you a chance to make a difference and to matter to someone else. If you make an effort to do any of this, I guarantee you that you will care what happens next.

Good luck and hang in there.

Answer 9

Go back to sleep and dream of having a mansion, and a pool full of money, like MR. McDuck! bd

Answer 10

My suggestion is you make an effort to live the rest of your life more productively.