My Ex & I have been on speaking terms & haven’t stopped seeing each other since we broke up. He started seeing a new girl I refer to her as "Grand AM Girl" (GAG), because he refuses to tell me her name (he says it isn’t important- what’s up with that). Recently we have been spending a lot of time together, going out to eat, the movies, doing things with my son (who he has helped raise since he was 4yrs old & is now 12), &continuing our sexual relationship. Shortly after I noticed he was seeing GAG, I asked him to lay it out on the line what he wants & expects & told him what I want & expect & asked him if he could meet my terms, he said he had to think about it & would give me an answer. I waited for about 2wks & then ran into he & GAG driving towards his house after the bar, he was driving her car, of course I was upset & told him so. A few days ago he called & said how important I was to him. I am still unsure of how to take any of this if I should consider reuniting or let him go?
2007-07-25 02:41:19 · 13 answers · asked by Dazed 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Responding to answers..
I left him and moved out
I did wait for an answer for two week then saw them Together..
I haven’t spent any time with him since I saw them together
He called me two days ago after seeing them together
I don’t have an ego problem and do not feel competitive toward this other woman
I have been dating other people (just not sleeping with anyone else)
2007-07-25 03:35:54 · update #1
Personally, I wouldn't get back together with him. It sounds as though he is stringing you along. He is actively dating you and this other girl at the same time! While I can understand you wanting him to continue to be in your son's life, I would certainly not continue to sleep with him! If you are honest with yourself, I am sure you must know he is probably sleeping with this other girl as well. I guess your decision all depends upon how much you value yourself. If you were really that important to him, wouldn't he be willing to stop seeing this other woman while he is still involved with you?
2007-07-25 02:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by Sophie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, you waited two weeks and then saw him with his new girlfriend and he was driving HER car? And you don't know if you should let him go?
|Read you own question and you have your answer- YES! Let him go!
He doesn't seem to mind messing up your life and your son's (who probably sees him as a father- figure) life.
YOU DESERVE TO BE TREATED BETTER THAN THIS.
I know it hurts, but for your sanity and your son's sake, move on and let him go. Trust me, he has thought about it and he unfortunately has chosen this other life. Somewhere down the road he will see what he has lost, but right now he has the best of both worlds. The new relationship, new and exciting and you, reliable and dependable(and available when the new girl isn't.) Do not let him choose. Stand up for yourself( and your son) and let him go.
There is someone better our there for you.
Good Luck!
2007-07-25 02:55:57 · answer #2 · answered by chickemama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's playing both of you and getting the best of both worlds. If you have laid it out to him....you should wait for an answer/commitment from him before you continue this relationship. You said you had a son......well consider what his feelings are as well. You deserve someone who can commit to you fully and it sounds like this guy is bad news.
All the best!
2007-07-25 02:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by Sara M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're real big on talking about how your ego is driving you, and how you feel competitive with this other woman;however, you are really weak on explaining important things like who broke up with who, etc.
In short, you are letting your ego drive you, and all I can tell from this post is that you are amazingly emotionally immature. You aren't ready for a serious relationship. That is my conclusion.
2007-07-25 02:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the problems that hurt your relationship the first time still exist than forget about it.However even if those problems have been dealt with you still have to deal with GAG.It sounds to me like your ex likes things the way they are,he has you,GAG and his freedom.
I think its time for you to have a little freedom of your own.
2007-07-25 02:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by Julius C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer: Let him go.
Long answer: Are you serious? He is playing you. How can you trust him. Remember the reason you left him in the first place. You look desperate when you tolerate his bullshit. Value yourself as a person. Charge him to the game and move on.
2007-07-25 02:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by SuperKdog 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him work things out in his own head. You need to stop sleeping with him and maybe go out and meet people. You can't start giving him ultimatums because in the end you lose. Be patient but also live your life.
2007-07-25 02:48:13 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is getting his cake and eating it too. So to speak. You are going to end up hurting yourself and your son more if you don't end it now. Nothing to think about he is showing you his true colors. He is keeping yo on hold and looking for something better all at the same time. If he doesn't want to step up to the plate now he wont later...Move on...sorry
2007-07-25 02:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
let him go...and that will be that...you must go for a man who will give you what you deserve! if you have to, cut off ties w/ him and your son as well...when you meet someone new...=(...you will find someone else who will be there for the both of you! You just need to let it happen...and it can only happen if you ditch this dude...Good Luck! been there, done that...
2007-07-25 02:47:30 · answer #9 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. If he comes back, then he does it without GAG. And, he does it with the promise that you are the one and only and your terms are met.
2007-07-25 02:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by Lee B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋