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I have been married to my husband for 7 years and we have two kids together. Since we've been married I've got him looking at other women on the internet who were his type before I ever came along into his life ( blonde with big boobs) I've also caught him talking to them online and the other women have shown pictures of them naked to him and I believe he himself has done the same thing to them. How do I help him with his sexual addiction and to have him focus more on me than himself and other women that were his type before I came along?

2007-07-25 02:30:02 · 5 answers · asked by Snowwhite30 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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Seek professional counseling. A similar situation destroyed my best friend's marriage. Allowing it to continue is making you an enabler and is basically letting him know it's ok. It may not be an addiction...he may just enjoy voyeurism. However, if it is bothersome to you and is affecting your relationship, it is a problem regardless. Get help.

2007-07-25 02:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by NurseBunny 4 · 0 0

My Mom's best friend has pretty much this same problem. Her boyfriend was a swinger and is into that whole scene. She's not like that and refuses to participate in anything like that.... So, he cheats on her. He's cheated with probably thirty different women the past year alone. He told her that he 'has a problem'. Uh, yeah, you can't keep it in your pants buddy... They even tried couples counseling. He's still cheating.

Your husband may not be cheating [though he very well could be] but, he's still got a problem. You can try some sort of marriage therapy but, he honestly most likely won't change. Was he like this before you married him? If so, you made a big mistake a long time ago.

These women are obviously STILL his type. You've been with him for seven years. If he was like that before and he's still like there, there's no way you're going to change him.

2007-07-25 02:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Honestly, I think you're being too understanding of this. Sexual "addiction" is hardly an addiction, not in the biological and physiological sense that drugs or alcohol are. Most supposed sex addicts actually CHOOSE to do it, and use "addiction" as an excuse to get away with it. Make him seek therapy, and threaten to leave if he doesn't quit. Otherwise, he'll have no motivation to bother. For the sake of your children, who will learn from his behavior, you should not stay with him if he will not agree to break this bad habit. If you stay, you will be essentially teaching your children that this is ok. Don't be naive enough to think they don't sense what is going on, or won't figure it out eventually. Good luck!

2007-07-25 02:34:49 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 2 0

I would say leave him. It isn't fair to you that he is on the internet looking at other women when he should be paying more attention to you. You're his wife and you're the one he has children with. He should not be on the internet looking at naked women let alone sending pictures back of himself nude. That is totally wrong! Leave him you deserve a lot better.

2007-07-25 02:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by BabiGurl 3 · 0 0

ok...time to put your foot down...he is not being an example to the kids...and, he is not being the husband he should be...so, give an ultimatum...it stops...or he goes...and that's that...cheating is cheating...don't put up w/ it! =). Good Luck!

2007-07-25 02:41:02 · answer #5 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0 0

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