my hausband and i have been married for 2 months and we still have not have sex, i know im not attractive but why wont he have sex with me anymore. we used to all the time it has been 6 months since we have had sex. when i asked him why not he just says it doesn't work anymore. i dont know what to do anymore. it makes me feel like there is something wrong with me
2007-07-25 02:03:09 · 20 answers · asked by lonley in ky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nothing wrong with you it is him. You need to ask him why he married you in the first place? Who is he sleeping with now if not you? You don't need to be in a relationship like that. Sounds if he might be a bit controlling. If it worked before you were married it works now. Tell him you will find another if he can't or wont follow through in your bed. Or doesn't want to follow through.
2007-07-25 02:09:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he did not find you attractive, then why did he marry you? Maybe there is something wrong with HIM. Time to go to marriage counseling and figure this out. Make the appointment, then tell him how you feel and ask him to go. A counselor will help you two identify what is really causing your problems, and will give you constructive strategies to find solutions. If he won't go, then go yourself. Often if you just go, your spouse will change their mind in fear of you leaving them or talking about them behind their back. If he still does not go, you can still learn a lot from a professional. It will open your eyes! Good luck!
2007-07-25 02:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-10 23:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you say you're "not attractive" but if he married you, that should not be an issue for him - ostensibly, a man marries a woman he loves and wants to MAKE love to, right? If I was you, I'd worry ... if he had a sexual appetite before it seems like he must need it somewhere .... tell him that if he isn't attracted enough to have sex with you, maybe y'all should not have gotten married.
I'm sorry doll, maybe he is just having other emotional problems? Have you guys been happy? Intimate?
Good luck!
2007-07-25 02:08:14 · answer #4 · answered by Random_Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be your lack of self esteem? I know that's not an attractive trait to have.
Maybe he's having an affair...it's been 6 months since you've had sex, didn't you guys talk about this before getting married?
He could be stressed or depressed....he must love you and be attracted to you, he married you.
You both need marriage guidance counselling.
2007-07-25 02:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibilities: a) married you to obtain legal residency b) is actually gay and hasn't come to terms with it yet c) is giving it to someone else and there is nothing left for you d) has some kind of physical problem. If d), then he should see a doctor. If b) then divorce. If c) ask him to see a counselor - refusal = divorce. a) = divorce and a call to the INS.
2007-07-25 02:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by jhartmann21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Return to something in the past, when you were dating , and see if that will ignite the spark again.Don't believe for a second that it's your fault alone. Counseling should be the next step. Good Luck.
2007-07-25 02:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by Samuel g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't work anymore......it being his penis?if so it might not be you. is he stressed? did he lose a job, family member, friend, or are you trying to have a baby? anytime a man gets stressed his lower regions do one of two thing, they work all the time or they never work. if you were having sex all the time before then chances are that it has NOTHING to do with you
2007-07-25 02:10:02 · answer #8 · answered by hidey~hoe neighbor! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very degrading for a woman. Every woman is beautiful in her own way. Don't sell yourself short.
He needs to see a doctor if "it quit working". There are medicines for that. However, he can still satisfy YOU. Sounds like he is very selfish.
2007-07-25 02:15:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband exactly how you feel, in plain words. Say that you need to sort this out for you to be happy in the relationship. Maybe you need therapy, maybe you need to feel sexy together again. Take your time.
2007-07-25 02:20:44 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋