hypothetical scenario:
student is studying at possibly the best university in the country. student has been studying in said university for a while. he knows a considerable number of people and has tried everything to make very close friends (e.g. join organizations and interact more with classmates) yet has failed in establishing such relationships.
there exists another university which is not as good as this student's current school in terms of education (but is regarded as one of the top schools nonetheless), and will help the student establish closer ties with the people he is with. the student is considering transferring to this other school instead.
QUESTION: would you consider having difficulty making friends and relating to one's schoolmates a "lame" or "weak" excuse for transferring schools, esp. if you're transferring from a "better" school to a "good" school?
2007-07-25 01:30:39 · 12 answers · asked by Shooting STELLAR Press (MISAWA) 6 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
What makes you think that it will be any easier to make friends in the new school? How does anybody "help the student establish closer ties with the people he is with" anyway? Sounds like wishful thinking.
As long as you're not getting bullied or harrassed in any way, stay where you are.
2007-07-25 01:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by rosbif 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a lame excuse. Universities will not help a person to make friends. If he is shy, he will have exactly the same difficulty in doing so at one university as at another. It sounds more like he is looking for a lighter workload.
It may be that the difficulty is that he is coming across as very needy. Closeness is not the first goal of friendships, but rather something that develops over time if they are compatible. He should relax a bit and be content with ordinary companionship. There will be only a few people in a lifetime that he will feel really close to. And those people cannot be found by latching on to others and forcing the issue. Maybe he should join study groups, and the work at that top university will not seem so daunting or lonely.
2007-07-25 01:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by RE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good question. If you really feel you have tried EVERYTHING to make friends and still have none- then switch. I mean, I am a high school student- and I care about my grades and the college I go to- but friends is like a really important thing. I don't consider it a lame excuse, but what I would do is take a look at the other college and make sure that the kids are different, and that the same thing won't happen again.
2007-07-25 01:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by Dannyyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually transferring because you are not establishing good relationships with others is NOT a lame idea. I mean you already tried socializing...i didn't work so why not transfer? I heard from a friend that it is better for a person to excel in his/her activities if this person is happy with her surroundings and is thinking of her work NOT as an obligation but an interest. Surroundings include your social status and the friends you have. So if your not happy then you must do what will make you happy.
2007-07-25 03:44:23 · answer #4 · answered by GJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily a lame excuse. If you're not happy where you are and you are pretty sure you would be at the other school, move to the other school. Life's too short. I think it's weird though that you can't make any friends when you've joined organizations, etc. Do you ask people to do things with you?
2007-07-25 01:37:35 · answer #5 · answered by gwenleonhard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that such excuse is lame after you tried ALL, I mean ALL possible means to interact with the people around the campus. I guess you should give one more try. It can help you mature as a person and be able to strengthen your self identity. Remember that pain is always experienced in all changes that happend. Think of yourself as a piece of clay...you are stretched and molded into a useful work of art.
2007-07-25 03:40:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes -- it is a lame excuse. The real problem is thinking that changing schools will improve this hypothetical student's chances of making friends. It isn't the school -- it is the student.
2007-07-25 02:26:37 · answer #7 · answered by Ranto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW will that other school help you "establish closer ties with the people he is with?"
School dances, clubs, stuff like that? Cause that is what all schools do. I have a lot of doubts that the 2nd school is going to do anything to help you make friends. Smaller schools claim this, but they don't "help" you do it.
Get some examples from the second school of exatly how they help you with friends before you transfer.
2007-07-25 01:37:11 · answer #8 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think friendships and the ability to make them is the most important thing in life. An education is important, but it's not the be-all and end-all of life. A lot of people with little or no education do very well for themselves because of the number and quality of friends they have.
2007-07-25 01:42:53 · answer #9 · answered by Alex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though it is important to have friends, good friends, one must also consider if he/she is in a very great school, paying boo-coo bucks for a life career or a short term social group.
2007-07-26 05:49:21 · answer #10 · answered by Sandra T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋