I recently remarried a man who has 2 children. Their Mom has never been in their life for over a month at a time and has never paid him child support. She is in and out of jail, and we can never locate her address...are there any means to getting her to have to pay back child support and current child support? She needs to realize that her kids are still her responsibility even though shes not a real mom to them!
2007-07-25 00:27:20 · 6 answers · asked by anngeez2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The law requires that the absent parent provides financial support to his or her children.... this is a legal process which goes through the court system.... your husband needs to find a family lawyer to talk with about this case.
Meanwhile, it's not up to you to make this mom realize the kids are her responsibillity -- if she doesn't want to take responsiblity, and is in and out of jail, it's HER problem.
Seems you're making it your problem. Just take care of YOU... and things will go more smoothly.
i hope it works out and your husband gets some good legal advice. take care.
2007-07-25 00:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you feel that she is not there for her children then why the heck would you want child support from her so she can really be a part of there life. She must have some kind of issues like drug use or something like that if shes in an out of jail. If she can not help her self shes not going to be able to support her kids. We as people that are on the strait and narrow are not in there shoes. We don't know why they choose to not want any thing to do with there children. Maybe because they are not to sure how to live for tomorrow. They can't think about the fact ed that they don't want there children to grow up like they did or they just don't have someone to guide them to the right path. There are lots of reasons that people make the wrong choices.
If you want to be there mother an raise them then do it. Don't chase her for the money let dead dogs lay. You and there dad can go and get full legal custody and you can adopt them and then you don't have to worry about getting support from her. If you enforce the child support thing she will just end up doing time in Jail for not paying support and you will not get it any way.
Do whats best for the children not your wallet!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-25 07:53:22 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's up to your husband. If he does not want to pursue money from his ex you have to let the issue go, and accept the children as yours, too, since their mother is irresponsible. For some reason child support makes laws but does not enforce them most of the time, it seems to me. Let your husband handle this, because child support won't speak to you, I know from experience. All he has to do is talk to his child support case worker, they do the rest...that is, if they are doing their job. If they are not doing their job, he needs to go to their supervisor, then the head of the department if he can't get the answers he needs. Good Luck! Also, he needs to put his foot down and set some guidelines for this ex...don't let her come and go as she pleases...=). If she is in the same state then obviously she can see them regularly but if she don't adhere to a set schedule within reason, he can withhold visitation until she signs a commitment in court!
2007-07-25 07:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's in and out of jail all the time, your just blowing smoke, she sounds like a real winner, you can get a judgement against her but if she's broke or in jail whats left. you cant get blood out of a rock. my advice, keep her as far away as possible, dont give her a reason to even think she has kids
2007-07-25 07:34:49 · answer #4 · answered by tencar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesnt sound like u can do anything shes a deadbeat mom in and out of jail if she ever holds down a job her income tax refund would be given to you but it doesnt sound like thats going to happen
2007-07-25 07:41:45 · answer #5 · answered by marianne l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like blood from a turnip.
2007-07-25 07:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋