ive been seeing this guy at work, he buys me little present and keeps sayin how he cant stand his wifes body and complaining on how prudish she is, i tell him i dont want to know as every woman is different, but on his p.c at work i found photos of her & she didnt seem prudish to me plus she was wearing tops & knickers exactly like the ones he bought me? what is he playing at?
2007-07-25 00:13:03 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to end that now. He just wants his cake and eat it too.
2007-07-25 00:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by tlk0408 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋
First of all i agree with most of the above, he's a player and if it wasn't you then he'd be sleeping with someone else at work.
He suckered you well and truely, he lied, cheated and got what he wanted so expect the push quite soon unless you wise up.
Secondly, have some self respect, just think how many millions of single guys there are on this planet and why would you want to be a bit on the side?
No matter what he says, that really is all you are, just a bit on the side.
2007-07-25 00:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well i wouldn't have anything to do with someone like that. What do you want to come of it? If he leaves his wife for you -will you ever be able to trust him? And anyway, my advice is -do not get involved with someone who already has a partner -be it a wife or a girlfriend - and the biggest no no, is if their are children involved.
Rise above this - imagine if you were his wife - how would you feel? Sorry to say but i think you should stay well away and have more respect for others and most importantly - YOURSELF.
Good luck.x
2007-07-25 00:21:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Firstly i know this situation inside and out and i would honestly tell you without personally knowing you or him that this is a huge mistake and will land up hurting you!!
As for what he is playing at, simple, he is going to tell you just about anything you want to hear to keep getting what he is getting...
You have now caught him out in a lie, so now you will start doubting everything he says and does and that in the end will you lead you to start doubting yourself...
Maybe his wife is all these things, or maybe not, but i doubt he will tell you he loves her...what would that get him.
Sorry if i come across rude, i just know what hurt this lead too and i really wish it wont happen to you!
2007-07-25 00:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by *Lee*D* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's saying negative things about his wife because it makes him feel like he's justified in cheating on her. You don't say whether they have kids or not but either way, you need to stop thinking about yourself and get out of that relationship. Chances are, he'll never leave her anyway. He's got his cake and is eating it too! There's someone out there who is single, waiting for you and if you waste your time on a married man, you'll never find him.
2007-07-25 01:30:43 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be in your interest to leave this man in peace and look around for someone who is not married. For all you know, he is only interested in seeing your nakedness and so will tell you a lot of lies to achieve his aim and objective.
If he claims he is not interested in his wife let him first prove it by divorcing her.
In the not too distant future you could also be a victim.Should you marry in future your husband could do the same thing to you so the earlier you stopped seeing him the better.
2007-07-25 00:36:18 · answer #6 · answered by ebenjosiah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leading you up the garden path is what hes doing ,having is cake an eating it ,i can think of lots more sayings for this man but i wont go there,you know yourself hes a liar by what you've seen on his computer ,keep away love he will only hurt you bye the sound of things have a night out with the girls and see if can find a man without a ring on his finger? good luck.
2007-07-25 00:26:53 · answer #7 · answered by lburedkin@btinternet.com 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is playing you. He is keeping you sweet. His little bit on the side. Nothing like it. Wife at home keeping everything sweet and girlfriend at work. He is playing you like a real fool. Drop him. Have a bit more respect for yourself. Find a man who will want you for who you are and not what you give in bed.
2007-07-28 09:23:59 · answer #8 · answered by DONNA MIA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously using you. You really need to stop, right now. What can you get out of this anyway? Think of his wife, how would she feel if she knew what you were up to? Don't be gutter trash for anyone, coz that is all you are to him, ask him to leave his wife, and just watch his reaction. Quit while you are ahead, for there is only pain around the corner.
2007-07-25 00:18:58 · answer #9 · answered by ryles72 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think its unanimous you are being played and your kind of a skank.
You know he is married and you still sleep with him. There are too many single people on the market to risk playing with the married ones. Intergrity would tell you this.
Quit being easy at work, it make you lose credibility with everyone around you. Yes, everyone around you knows, they just pretend not to notice.
Make a clean brake, get your integity back and look for single guys. There are plenty of them who will be happy to bone you at lunch.
2007-07-25 00:26:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have thought it was pretty obvious what this guys game is.......married men & women (come to that) are notorious for spinning lines such as this.
If I were you hun, I'd stear very clear of him.
Just put it down to experience & DON'T get involved with married guys again.......apart from hurting everyone concerned, you'll be left feeling used & your confidence rocked.
Good luck.
2007-07-25 00:46:10 · answer #11 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋