we are married for last 12 years. Now after our 2nd baby two years back, wife lost interest in sex. She is a working women and at home she always remain busy with kids and house work. Even on week ends and holidays she don't like to have sex. rest of things between us are quite normal. can anybody suggest any counseler at mumbai or any other way to solve the problem.
2007-07-25 00:12:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hello mr. if ur wife has lost intrest in sex and evrything else is ok between u too....u need to sit and talk it out with her.u need to try and keep the sparks flying by new techniques and a new approach.
de stress her by massage and soft music.
woo her by lots soft romantic conversation
dont pressurise her for it , just go to sleep cuddling her after some foreplay and kissing
look in her eyes often , deeply during caressing her
oh! there are lotsa things a women wants...
u can also try sunflower petals cooked in olive oil..its an aphrodosiac or bamboo leaves . better luck
2007-07-25 00:25:14 · answer #1 · answered by loosha l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you would help her with the kids & house work more she wouldn't be so tired.When she gets home, perhaps get a sitter, an over night sitter , (grandma, or aunt or something) have dinner ready & treat her like she is a queen & you might get somewhere or take her out to dinner, do all the things you used to do before you got married all the things you know she likes & don't expect sex don't try to get her to have sex just show her how much you love her & maybe after she'll take a nap & give you what you want. Don't get upset if it doesn't work the first time, just keep trying. The better you treat her & the kids the more love you will get in return. Just try a little harder,help a little more, & show your love like you used to when your love was brand new. Just pretend you are trying to get her to marry you all over again. Just be patient.
2007-07-25 08:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by thepeacelover01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi sometimes women lose interest even after a yr of marriage . well the thought of conceiving . secondly the thought of bringing up children even is a big responsibility.so u need to talk openly with ur wife . maybe adopt methods of birth control . try and do small acts of kindness towards her . help around etc.. if she is relaxed then she might get into the mood for intimacy
2007-07-25 12:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by jubilee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question. You said she is a working mom and when she is home, she is busy with the kids and taking care of the family. for some women, this takes a lot of energy and it can lower their sex drive. try counseling or helping her around the house. take some time out for yourselves.
2007-07-25 19:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by pk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When is the last time u thanked her for taking care of u and ur kids or said that she was pretty .sex is not only thing in life.try to be her friend be compassinate take her out for dinner. Try to apperciate her more. try to do things she is interested in .Overall pray to GOD for wisdom in life.
2007-07-25 14:15:19 · answer #5 · answered by prem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be the hormonal deficiencies in her system that made her loose interest in sex. This happens in the middle age women & requires proper medical treatment to fulfill the hormonal deficiencies. The best person to help you out will be the gynecologist who will be able to suggest both oral medicine as well proper diets that will help her regain her interest in sex. Don't worry its quite normal phenomenon & it gets treated by proper medical treatment & diet which is healthy in such vitamins & minerals that help in proper production of sex hormones in the person. Best of luck.
2007-07-25 07:36:01 · answer #6 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How bout you try helping her with kids and housework. My wife works to and even though i work i still help out with all the household duties and etc. It may be she is to tired from doing everything. Are you making sex enjoyable for her? It has to be exciting for her to, you know.
2007-07-25 07:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by ryles72 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
suggest a marriage counselor maybe its something else eating at her do you help around the house with the chores and the kids? maybe she's afraid of having another child you need to talk to her there are things to take for birth control and woman's viagra.
2007-07-25 07:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by marianne l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a break,send your children to your parents or her parents for a week ,tell her to take a leave and you take her to the place she always wanted to go and BINGO.Don't waste your time and money on consulting,but spend it on her.It's the atmosphere that requires to be changed.God bless you both.Have a nice holiday.
2007-07-25 07:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by manjit grover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consult a Sexologist or even a Gynachologist, Coz your wife might be having some physical problems so try that also.
2007-07-25 07:21:35 · answer #10 · answered by Stunner_cool 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋