Money vs Relationships...........?

Question

Does money problems really effect a realitionship?

What would you do...... been togather 5 years, I seem to have a money problem, (Sounds pathetic) but I just cant save and seem to impulse buy all the time. and its starting to effect my realtionship

Answer 1

Have you considered having him be in control of all things financial? That would limit your spending and let him know that he is more important than your shopping habit!

Answer 2

Yes money really does affect a relationship especially so when you only have enough for your family's needs. Couples fight over anything great and small and money is almost always part of them. I have a friend who divorced his wife because she has a long standing spending problem. The best thing you have to do is talk to your partner about financial matters (though we are often hesitant to bring up monetary concerns because it usually boils up to an argument). On your part, try to control your impulsive instincts by prioritizing your family's needs. When you're in the grocery for instance, try to list down all your "must-buys" and stick to your list (the hardest part is this one though)..bring only enough money to pay for the goods on your list, that way you won't be tempted to buy more.. make simple yet attainable goal for yourself to address your spending problem. When your partner notice your effort he will be happy with you and will help you through the process..

Good Luck

Answer 3

Money problems is the number one reason most marriages end in divorce. If you can't control your money then i would let your partner handle the money to make sure bills get paid. And just save like $20-$100. (depending on your financial situation) for your "play" money. If you're maxing out credit cards left and right then you definitely need to seek a debt councilor. No one wants to be with someone who can't be responsible with money. Try to start this simple habit too. I started a $5.00 piggy bank.Meaning every time I got a $5.00 I saved in a piggy bank I couldn't easily open no matter what. I chose $5.00 bills because is was a good amount and you don't always get a $5.00 bill in change at a store.Even if it was my only money until my next pay check i made it work. It definitely came in handy when i had an emergency and needed it for gas money. (it's hard for me to put it in a savings account because i can take it out easily.) For a while a dated a sweet Guy and we lived together (rented a house from my mom), but he was horrible with money , it was huge stress on me because he was too lazy to balance his own check book. I got sick of it after a few months. I moved out of state for other reasons and after a few months my mom had to evict him because he had got so far behind on everything.

Answer 4

Money problems can absolutely cause problems in a relationship. The can put a strain on even the strongest relationship and anybody who says otherwise has never had serious and true money problems. If you want to save your relationship you have to make it your number 1 priority and ultimately, if that means getting help from an outside source to curb your spending habits - DO IT! In the meantime, you have to be completely honest with your partner and express to them your desire to change. Let them help you and in the end it may be your relationship's saving grace.

Answer 5

You need some professional help to stop yourself doing this, your question suggests that you are doing this because there is something missing in your relationship. Try planning to save for something really special ( such as a great holiday ) so you have something to look forward to.

Answer 6

What more proof do you need?
Of course it does, specially if you two don't have plenty of it.
I guess your partner is worried about what the future with you would have in store with him, rightly enough.
If you think it's something you can't control, there is counselling for issues like this and you can get help.
Good luck.

Answer 7

are you married or only living together? either way...you need to cut down on your spending...=). If you can live w/o it the item, why buy it? Just say no...=). Set yourself a goal and try to save a specific amount each month.

Answer 8

It depend on the person with whom you have a relationship. Money is a variable phenomena. It changes. Some time you have lods of money whereas sometimes. Its simple. A true relationship should never break

Answer 9

A lot of problems in relationships can often be traced back to money issues.

Answer 10

Money is the root of all evil.

Open a joint account with your boyfriend and put a little aside each week. Before you know it voila you have a tidy little nest egg.