Poll:Is it morally wrong to find a lover if your spouse is sexually disatisfying?

Question

Is it ever okay to have a lover on the side only for physical satisfaction, if its only sex and not love involved? And of course %100 protection used.

Answer 1

Sounds to me like you have married the wrong man. It's not his fault he came up short. It's his fault if he is not willing to do what it takes to satisfy you. He needs to learn how to use his hands and any thing else god gave him. If he has to ware a 7 inch strap on to make sure you get yours then a 7 inch strap on it should be. If you can't get him to see that he is pushing you away from him because he isn't willing to try to satisfy you then divorce him and go find another. Finding a lover is wrong as long as your married to him.

Answer 2

I would have to say this is entirely up to the couple...It has a couple of entirely different scenarios...it could be hidden always and never admitted even when confronted...that is a marriage ender...it could be that a suggestion was repeatedly put into their head until they were triggered by key words to become somewhat more relaxed with the idea....That to would end a marriage and has some other possible endings, depending on how much money they were actually taking on top of the sex acts. I still believe every couple has to set the limit to whatever they are comfortable with.

Answer 3

The question really should be: how do I achieve physical satisfaction with my spouse? There are many resources to improve your existing sex life - books, therapy, your own imagination. Of course, it takes two to make it work. Have a frank discussion with your spouse. Don't say "you're not doing it for me". Try something like "honey, let's find ways to make our love making more exciting.

As your your question; no, it's not ever okay. Good luck!

Answer 4

Generally, if it's such an issue that you would feel the need to look elsewhere, you probably need to evaluate, and maybe eventually leave, the relationship.

Of course, that depends on each couple. Some are polyamorous, or swingers, for reasons such as this. The most important thing is to be up front with one's partner about these things. Once sneaking around your significant other's back comes into play, it's a problem.

Answer 5

I believe that is still cheating on your spouse. For godsake either leave your spouse, or work on your sexual relationship. Are you sure it is your spouse that has the problem, how do you know it isn't you? Talk to your spouse and try a few new or different things to spice up your sex life. Remember you only get as much as you give, so go that bit further.

Answer 6

Never mind the social and religious pomposity, if you need extra help to relieve the stress of life - and sex is an excellent way to do this - the decision is yours. It's a matter of attitude, and this applies to women just as it does to men. Men, of course, are more prone to the syndrome. As I say -"The doe has her seasons, but the buck is perennial." This has to be taken into account.

Answer 7

Sorry, it's wrong, period, unless you have an open relationship.
You might try teaching your spouse how to satisfy you, under the guise of spicing things up. Not everyone is born good at this type of thing, some have to be taught. It can be fun to be the teacher :)

Answer 8

If your relationship gets to this point, you need to let the guy know. I doubt he'd be okay with it. You'll probably breakup. But i feel you. But you say morally wrong? Only if the b/f doesn't know.

Answer 9

This is 100% wrong, going behind your partners back is wrong, how would you feel if he done it to you? Treat others how u expect to be treated! Talk to your partner and tell him how you feel and maybe together you can come to decisions to spice things up in that department!

Answer 10

Yes is wrong you take vows for a reason! You can improve you love life in marriage all it takes it communication to what you want done or want to try.