my little boy was in car accdient when his uncle was driving the car. hes now in a wheelchair and i can`t help but think its my fault.
2007-07-24 23:49:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You need to look at your son for what he is and what he has, not what he isn't, or doesn't have. Forget about who is at fault. Look at his smile, his eyes. Listen to what he says, about everything he sees and experiences. Read to him. Encourage him to see his positive qualities, talents, and gifts. Maybe he will be an amazing artist, a fantastic writer, a brilliant scientist, or maybe even a tremendous athlete. Always encourage him to focus on what he CAN do, not what he can't.
If you need to talk with a therapist for your own peace of mind, please do so, but DON'T allow your feelings of guilt to affect your relationship with your child. Sometimes we just have to accept life for what it is and go forward from there.
2007-07-25 01:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by leslie b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened to your son was beyond your control and you cannot blame yourself for that. But he is alive and that in itself is a great blessing. If he was not strapped in a car chair in the back seat of the car use this as an example to other parents out there to take this very seriously.. Children around this age adapt very quickly to change and the trauma of the accident becomes a faded memory if they remember at all. Life is a gift, rejoice in the fact that God has spared his life despite the circimstances. Look for a support group that consist of parents that are going through similar situations.
2007-07-25 02:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by sioxpauxmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ask you to do something, and you do it and instance feeling like that, you will be happy...
Look at your son, He is still in lives, he did not lose his eyes, he hearing you , he will understand that what you are saying to him,
this thing must make you happy, any thing could happen , worse worse thing that you cant even think about that...
don't feel that it was your fault, be happy ... he is live, he can look at you with his beautiful eyes, he want to be kind to you,
i hope this wheelchair have some thing especial for him he learn , and experience, he is too child but i believe child can understand better than adult
2007-07-25 00:05:25 · answer #3 · answered by ehsan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's not your fault, his uncle was driving not you. That doesn't mean it's the uncle's fault either though, as it was an "accident". I'm so sorry for your little boy though :(
2007-07-24 23:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by pablosgirl 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you blame yourself ,it is because of your kind heart otherwise there is not your fault,and remember a thing,if you you are a good person God looks through your faith on him and put's a strong trial on you if you are kind and good.trial from God is always according to your goodness and it washes out your sins .
2007-07-24 23:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to hear that. i hope your boy will recover! it is really not your fault. and before these negative thoughts go any further, you should talk to someone (psychologist, care centre, etc.). wish you all the best.
2007-07-24 23:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by swissgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but it's not your fault, better to use your energy in helping your baby
2007-07-25 00:39:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are experiencing "survivor's guilt". Please get some counseling, even if it is just with a minister or the hospital chaplain.
2007-07-25 10:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by boogeywoogy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋