My 7 year old has been spending a lot of time with her teenage cousin. She keeps asking me to dye her hair black and buy a miniskirt.She wants to have sleepovers and wear make up and cup bras. She even asked for a thong! She now is always looking in the mirror and obsessing over herself and also stereo typing people. I want her not to get caught up in drama this early... What do I do?... HELP she's scaring me!
2007-07-24 23:45:34 · 8 answers · asked by a123cheer4me 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
This is a great chance to explain the difference between being a child and being a teenager. Be sure and list the advantages of being a kid, and tell her there will be time later for all that other stuff.
I would let her play dress-up in the house, though, with a mini-skirt. And the sleepovers with friends her own age might be a good idea. At that age, I'd only let her have one friend over at a time.
Good luck!
2007-07-24 23:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by Madame M 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal at this age. It's also a phase and it will pass, especially if you start decreasing the time she spends with her teenage cousin. Your daughter will soon start moving onto other interests, until this one comes up again, but hopefully she's much older the next time. What does concern me is what the teenage cousin is exposing your daughter to. I mean how in the heck would she know what a thong is unless the teenage cousin lets her know that she wears them? My daughter is 7 and has no idea what a thong even is.
2007-07-25 07:18:25 · answer #2 · answered by nimo22 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
HAHAHA! Yeah I know you'll probably have problems with that until she's about 11 and has her own sense of style and can think for herself,but if you want her to stop acting this way,try to connect her with some kids her age. It's just showing you that she'll grow up to be a more independant type of kid,and you should be glad. But you're right- A girl her age should learn to accept herself for who she is.
Let her have a sleepover though- but instead of her gothic cousing coming over,invite some of the girls in her class. She'll learn to play with them,and hopefully she'll want to be friends.
2007-07-25 06:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She has found someone to identify with is all. I suggest having her spend less time with her teen cousin and get her involved in activities with her peers. Get her into Girl Scouts, martial arts, dance, sports. And YOU spend more time with her.
2007-07-25 14:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you allowing this to go on is the big question of the day. Her cousin is too old for her period. End of problem. Step up the plate you are a parent, act like one.
2007-07-25 06:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Obviously, cut back or eliminate the time she spends with her cousin!
2007-07-25 15:11:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My little Ally wears short skrits and halter tops, and let her so long as it isn't in public don't worry. she is just discovering her self. Now if it does go into public, seek couciling right away
2007-07-26 00:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by youthreflectionh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think u should tell her cousin to be a better influence.
2007-07-26 20:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by Nina-chan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋