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A friend of mine (my girlfriend's best friend) told me that my girlfriend- while back home this summer- lost her virginity with an ex-boyfriend of hers, who she has had flings with, but told me it wouldn't happen again. I myself am a virgin, and plan on being one until marriage. How do I ask her about this without letting her know that her best friend told me? Because otherwise they would get in a fight, which I don't want to happen because it will be my fault. My girlfriend has lied to me before but it was because she was afraid it would push me away- for example she used to smoke, and I got that out of her, and I asked her to stop, and she said she would- we even threw her lighter off a bridge together, but she still smokes now... And this...
What do I do members of yahoo answers? I need help, I am in desperation!

2007-07-24 19:32:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

11 answers

I am sorry to say this but I don't think she trusts you enough to completely reveal herself....
You need to give her the assurance that nothing in her would make you love her less and give her a chance to open up to you...

As far as her physical fling is concerned, if she becomes completely honest with you, she'll mention it herself......

Give her some time and make sure she can trust you on everything....If the girl still doesn't mend her pervert ways, I think she's not worth a faithful and honest man like you.

2007-07-24 19:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by Himalayan Mystic 3 · 1 0

Wow, 13 year olds losing their virginity!? Gosh that's so young. You're all still kids. Kids should be kids. I'm happy you have a smart head on your shoulders because sex is a big step in life that should be shared with someone very special when one is older (I'd say at least 18). I feel you should tell him that he's too young for sex. Sex needs to be with someone you care about, not just anyone so you can go up to your boys and say "Hey, I lost my virginity!" because that's just low and disrespectful to the girl as well. He'll be more of a man if he simply waits a few more years until his Mrs. Right comes into his life.

2016-05-17 23:11:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

It doesn't matter who told you or how you found out about her fling with an ex boyfriend. She has lied to you in the past, she is lying now by not telling you she lost her virginity, and she is probably going to lie again sometime in the future.
Your girlfriend has no respect for you or your relationship. if she did she sure as hell wouldn't be smoking and telling you she quit or sleeping with another man repeatedly. My advice to you is drop her. I don't think she is the type of person you want to be in a relationship with. Find someone who shares the same ethics and values.
Good Luck

2007-07-24 19:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by shay22 2 · 1 0

If she's gonna lie to you about smoking then she'll definitely lie about other things! You need to make up your mind as to whether you want to keep seeing her (maybe even marry her) or go on your way to find someone that will be truthful to you.

As to the losing of her virginity, it can happen to any girl especially in this day and age. Most girls are no longer virgins by the age of 11! The morality of the world has changed so drastically that these 11 year olds look like they are in their mid-teens with all the makeup and type of clothing they are allowed to wear. Also, their body matures at a much younger age making them appear older than they really are!

Good luck in your search and if you decide to stay with her, God help you!

2007-07-24 20:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by lilbit48vmb 2 · 0 0

Can her. Go find someone who shares the same values that you do, honesty being one of those. She is using you as a doormat, so pull it out from underneath her. If she really gave a damn about you, she wouldn't lie to you and have sex with some other dude. If you don't want to cause a fight between her and her friend, can her for the smoking, and tell her you don't like her dishonesty. I would be on the lookout for her "friend" at this point too, she told you that for a reason.

2007-07-24 19:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by djbillietee 2 · 0 0

Well, you are a stand up guy for waiting. I am glad I did. As for your girlfriend...because you do not want to start a fight between you and your gf or your gf and her friend you can do one of two things...Ask her friend to to tell her that she needs to tell you. The second idea is to talk about sex in general and make sure she knows your feelings and maybe it will come out. When it does (if it does) do not be judgmental, make a decision though to stay with each other and make sure you set boundaries if you do.

2007-07-24 19:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by bobbo342 7 · 0 0

well i mean if she loves you she will tell you everything you can ask her if she is a virgin and if she lies then you know confront her about it you shouldnt be scared i mean she needs to tell the truth not lie and by what you have told all she does is lie but thats her problem

just email me at darkxunloved@yahoo.com if you need anymore advice

2007-07-25 06:58:49 · answer #7 · answered by darkxunloved 1 · 0 0

DON'T waste your time with her! If she won't listen to you and smokes and lies to you, u should have stopped right there and dumped her. But she's not a virgin && u r? PLEASE save it for someone who is one like u. I miss all the guys that r still virgins. Where did they dissapear to?

2007-07-24 19:39:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Seems u'r serious about her. If she has other lies, which u can forgive, then, u don;t need to discuss, virginity and all that crap... But if she still sleeps around and lie about it, cut it off and seek better girls/women.

2007-07-24 19:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by Josh 3 · 0 0

If she's causing you a headache dump her. No one is worth that much trouble. And how to confront her I couldn't tell you. But good luck anyways. Once a liar always a liar; once a cheater always a cheater.

2007-07-24 19:39:08 · answer #10 · answered by B.J. 3 · 1 2

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