he use to beat me then i stoped loving him till i walked away but the day i left i felt guilty. now iam ok but he is always begging me to come back, calling at work.
2007-07-24 19:20:09 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's begging you to come back? you know why don't you? he doesn't have anyone to beat on. you did the right thing and got out. now keep it that way. he will promise you anything, but he won't mean it.
2007-07-24 19:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by TLC 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
dont you DARE return to that relationship! dont feel guilty. he BEAT you, for the sake of all humanity! I read a magasene a little while ago. There are lots of girls who get KILLED by an abusive boy friend! Forget about him if you dont want to end up dead like those other girls. I highly doubt he wont beat you again. Forget about him. move on. Get together with friends, go to the mall, do anything that will keep your mind away from him. Activities, clubs, sports. Meet new poeple. go to new places. Get another guy. get busy, and soon that ex boufriend will just be a speck in your rearview mirror of life!
Hope thats helps! Best wishes, \
Kathy
2007-07-25 02:31:18 · answer #2 · answered by sweetheart13kay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you out of your ever loving mind?????? Why put yourself through that? You are going to end up getting hurt badly!!! People have died from living with abusive people. The abuse just progressively gets worse the longer you stay and put up with it. Sure he is sorry, until the next time.
Take it from me. I took mine back dozens of times, until he almost killed me by hitting me and my head hit the corner of a coffee table. If it had hit a little closer to the corner, I would have either been brain damaged, or killed!!!! (But he told everyone that it was an accident.) He didn't accidently hit me. And what if I had died?? He would have been in prison, but it would not have done me or my children any good!!!
Save yourself from the misery. Stay away!!!! Please!!!!! Life will get much better, and you will find a great man to love and RESPECT you too!!!!
2007-07-25 02:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Do not be his comeback too girl your like his puppet and just keeps coming back for more!There are plenty of guys in the world...Don't sell yourself short!
2007-07-25 02:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by ?¿Whatcha Doin'?¿ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he needs serious help, and there is NO WAY you will risk your life to be with him UNTIL he can PROVE he is no longer an angry insecure abuser. He HAS to commit to understanding HIS problem and getting the problem SOLVED through a professional.
Tell your co-workers NOT to accept his calls. DO NOT feel guilty for leaving - by being there, you were ENABLING him to be an abuser!! You were the dope and he was the addict!! Be PROUD that you stopped loving a man who intentionally hurt you - he did not deserve ANYTHING good from you, and has done NOTHING to deserve it now!! DON'T let his pathetic whinning get to you - he needs HELP, not a punching bag with your face on it!!
2007-07-25 02:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard when you let your feelings get in the way of a troubled relationship. I have the same prob. i love my bf, but he's an a**hole and has abandoned me while i am preggo. I still love him and miss him but i know i'm better off. You have to ask yourself one question, do you love him or do you love yourself more. I answered my own, just give yourself time, you will feel alright about your decision. Do not stay in an abusive r/s. You will not only lose self-respect, you may also lose your life.
2007-07-25 02:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by pussnboots333 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This decision is totally up to you, but just understand entirely what you're doing. You're putting yourself at risk. If he hit you once, who's to say he won't do it again? Hit you once...shame on HIM...Hit you twice...shame on YOU for giving him the opportunity to do it. I'm not trying to say that if you take him back and he hits you again then it's your fault. I'm just saying that now you have a chance to get away and avoid the situation. You seem like a trusting person simply because you're considering taking him back. Just, please understand what you're doing...and don't let him take advantage of you. Some people will viewing trust as a weakness and he'll take full advantage of it. Ask yourself: are you prepared to deal with the consequences? Again, the decision is 100% up to you. Trust your heart. It won't steer you wrong.
2007-07-25 02:30:43 · answer #7 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never feel guilty about taking care of yourself. Find someone to talk to (friend, health care professional, etc...) but don't go back. It is really hard to break a pattern of abusive relationships so you have already made a huge first step. Keep moving forward and don't look back.
2007-07-25 02:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by stoneblue2000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Battered wife syndrome - you don't want to be alone and you tell yourself that things might change but they never will. It's okay to be alone and it's okay to be scared but it is not okay to go back to him. Take time to make yourself stronger - become secure in the wonderful person you know you are deep down and then you'll realise that you don't need him and never did. He misses the control he had and that's why he calls - not because he loves you or misses you. Stay away from him.
2007-07-25 02:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by Morticanty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not even go there. I was in that situation before and it was hard as hell to leave but now that I look back, I am so damn proud of myself for making the decision to leave. We were 8 months from our wedding date and I still had to leave. He loved the bottle a little more than he did me and his son. It isn't worth going back and letting yourself be miserable. Life is too short and there is some man out there just waiting to treat you like the princess that you deserve to be treated as. Don't.....I know how much you miss him but girl it isn't worth it. Trust me. I don't wish that pain on anyone and am sad that you had to go through it yourself.
2007-07-25 02:27:50 · answer #10 · answered by mrs_me19 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing in leaving this man. Please do not go back to him as how do you know that it won't happen again, and this time worse? It is normal that you felt guilty. If you havent reported the abuse please do so as you may be advised to take out an order against him especially if he is calling you at work.
2007-07-25 02:27:19 · answer #11 · answered by meistj 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋