Is it possible to date a guy in his 20s and not have sex right away?

Question

I am 23 and I have never had a relationship because I dont like to give it up right away. I date guys all the time, but as soon as we are alone together they expect something. If i dont provide it, they find some other college girl who will.

I dont dress provacativly and i am not overtly sexual. But i have big blonde hair, green eyes, and a naturally large chest so i only get hit on by the wrong type of guy i think...Is this true? Or is it just every guy that needs it within the first two weeks??? I really dont want an STD or to be seen as easy though...

Answer 1

Yes it's possible. Honestly the guys that your dating are the wrong type of guys. Unfortunately it comes with the territory of being a girl, even more so if your considered attractive.

I wouldn't suggest that you give it up right away, if the guy can't wait then chances are the only reason he is with you is that he wants in your pants.

But on the other hand if a guy has been with you long enough, then he is inevitably going to want it and just may get annoyed with you not giving it up. Don't give it up till your ready, your not going to be ok with it and your really not going to end up liking the guy afterwards.

Just a suggestion, try finding a dork that you think is cute and start talking with him. Sure he'll be shy and awkward around you, but he's not going to run off on you for not giving it up.

Answer 2

I say the best way to even be around a guy comfortably is be friends first. I mean I know many guys out there would try to make a move on a chick and all that. And naturally they would be pissed off if they aren't successful. But you are a real woman and you are to be respected and not tread like some whore or something. So even if they don't like it, tell them you feel its best to be friends first and then work up to dating. If and when you feel comfortable start dating. But make it clear to the guys that just because you have began dating him, does not mean you are going to get it on in the next few days. He still has to treat you as a lady. And if he doesn't he can gladly move on. Because you are much better than some one night stand he could offer you.

It is also not true because you are a blonde with big boobs. Mind you that is what the porn interesting is saying that guys should see as something sexy does not mean you should believe the hype. You know what your personality is all about and the guys you attract will soon enough when you tell them what you are about. Guys like a woman to be blunt and no games, so give them just what they want. Oh and not all guys want it in the first 2 weeks. If you share the same values with the person he will understand this better than anyone else.

Answer 3

You should probably make it clear somewhat from the start what your intention are regarding sex. But yes, it is definately possible to date a guy in his 20's and not have sex right away. The guys you are dating sound pretty shallow, maybe you should try hanging out some different places looking for guys, or initiating the flirting with guys you find attractive first. Also try to hang out as friends some first, so you can see if you click, and then you can try dating them as long as they know you do not plan on getting right into the sack with him.

Answer 4

First two weeks? I would be all kinds of happy to get any in the first two months of something I considered making real serious...Being blonde with a large chest is ALWAYS a plus, but you will have to really be picky when it comes to dates..Don't do anything unless YOU are comfortable with it either, any guy that really pushes things is not worth it.

Answer 5

Yes, it's very possible.
A lot of guys in their 20s are still a little immature and getting some tail is usually number one on their list.
If they say, "If you don't give it up, I'll find someone else who will", then just turn around and walk away because someone who doesn't respect your wishes is someone who isn't even worth it at all.

Answer 6

The urge to merge is really strong in most guys, especially when in a high density college environment.
Perhaps a more mature guy in his mid to late twenties or early thirties will be more understanding. A guy that you meet some place other than college. And a guy that can hold a conversation and is interested in looking in your eyes instead of into your chest.
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Answer 7

You would be kind if saying to the guy that you really liked him and would like to continue dating him but that you don't want to do sex till you're married. If he doesn't respect you and your wishes then he's not worth the ground he walks on, and, kick him to the curb and look for another. All guys are looking for sex, but when they are serious and they want a family with you they will listen to you if you speak. Remember to speak.

Answer 8

i think that you shouldnt just hand yourself over if they want it right away. if they do that then itll most likely be a one night stand or something else and you dont want that. if you want a better type of guy just keep searching!!!

if you think about it, you are getting alot of attention, so i know this may sound weird but try to look "ugly" and see what happens, then if he likes you still go back to normal and showem yourself. its a little tricky but itll draw some nice guys in not just ones looking to get laid XD

Answer 9

Tell the guy going in how it is, and if they accept that then they are a keeper. I had a relationship with a girl without touching her at all (which shows it is possible) and we were very close. If you are open about this then you can manage to do it.

Answer 10

You make it happen or not. I am glad you have not broken in. Stay strong because there are guys out there who are not looking for sex. Just keep on the look out and God will lead you to a good guy.